How to Develop Emotional Intelligence for Personal Success

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How Does Abandonment Trauma Impact You, And What Ways To Cope With It?
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How Does Abandonment Trauma Impact You, And What Ways To Cope With It?

When we experience emotional abandonment as children can leave us feeling insecure, distrustful, incomplete, and afraid. These feelings frequently pursue us into later life and make it challenging for us to establish wholesome, dependable connections. This article teaches about emotional abandonment and healing the psychological impacts of abandonment.

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Gaslighting Parent: 7 Signs And Ways To Deal With It
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Gaslighting Parents: 7 Signs And Ways To Deal With It

Home Gaslighting is a typical abusive relationship strategy. However, it’s also prevalent in various relationships; in addition to love relationships, it can also happen in parent-child ones. You could find that this kind of behavior is nearly acceptable if you recognize the warning signals that your parents are gaslighting you, even though it most certainly shouldn’t be. This article has covered gaslighting parents, warning signs of toxic behaviors, and ways to deal with gaslighting from parents. For additional details, continue reading. Table of Contents What is gaslighting? A form of mental abuse known as gaslighting involves repeated attempts to make victims question their memory, judgment, or sanity. Gaslighters use false circumstances or assertions to make their victims feel or appear “crazy.” To avoid taking accountability for their actions, a gaslighting parent repeatedly contradicts or denies a child’s experiences or feelings, leading the child to mistrust their memory. A subtle and indirect kind of emotional abuse is parental gaslighting. To weaken their children’s perception of reality and mental well-being, these parents manipulate. Some well-intentioned parents may gaslight their kids to keep them safe. However, many more do so to preserve authority, dominance, and a sense of justice in the interactions between parents and children. Signs and examples of what a gaslighting parent says There are some visible signs and symptoms that show parents gaslighting. 1. They are always right How do both you and your parents typically talk to one another? Are they receptive to hearing your thoughts and what you’ve got to say? Or do they assume you will comply with their orders because “they just said” or “they’re the adult or parent”?  It can be difficult to have parents that don’t listen to you, and repeatedly being demeaned and treated like a child is sure to strain anyone’s self-esteem. The roots of fear and self-doubt planted in us when we don’t feel important, even by our parents in our own homes, become increasingly difficult to pull up as we age.  2 They are verbally abusive to you We all occasionally have disagreements with our parents. Parents sometimes lose their composure and yell. Everything about being human. However, verbal abuse is not typical. It might wear you down and appear normal when you’re in a verbally abusive relationship, which is the problem. However, verbal abuse may be a clue that your parent is gaslighting you. 3. They deny or lie about what actually happened to fits their need You are being gaslighted if your parents lie, reject, or cast doubt on your memories or emotional states. Your confidence in your personality decreases due to the frequent feeling that you must defend reality. You might also be unsure of your relationship with the other person to reassure yourself. It’s possible for your parents to outright claim that they didn’t do or say anything. Gaslighting is evident if your parents made statements or took actions that they later recanted or lied about. Your impression of what happened and your recall of what happened, as a result, become suspect. 4. They pull out their victim card and shift the blame on you Gaslighting in parents keeps them from realizing their contribution to difficulties in their lives. Conversely, they think that their kids are to blame for all of their problems and always generate chaos in their life. Parents who are hidden egomaniacs, psychopaths, or gaslighters frequently pull the victim game. Cruel or toxic parents may experience a victim mentality and lack a suitable outlet for their resentment. They employ gaslighting to mask their fears because they are reluctant to break old habits. As an illustration, gaslighting parents may transfer their problems onto their children and reprimand them for how they think. 5. They invalidate your feelings and experiences When parents gaslight their children, whether a mistake, setback or everyday stress, the child often feels terrible about the challenging scenario. Rather than offering their child help and support, they ignore, invalidate, and disregard their child’s emotions. Gaslighting is certainly present in this approach. If parents minimize their children’s emotions, it suggests that their actual experiences are unimportant or inappropriate. The child may become perplexed by this, develop self-doubt, and think they are going insane. Denying your emotions indicates that your parents want to prove that you are mistaken, exaggerating, or lying. Turning the situation around and placing the blame on the victim is a deceitful move. 6. They put words into your mouth The gaslighting parents manipulate the feelings of their children. The parent tells their child what they are feeling by saying things like: You’re not cold. You’re hungry Your body needs rest; go to bed You’re just cranky; it has nothing to do with what that guy said or did. If these type of statements frequently comes from parents, they are gaslighting you by denying your feelings. 7. They are being overly controlling Do your parents decide what to wear or who you can and cannot hang out with? Do they prevent you from meeting people or visiting particular locations simply because they dislike it? Do they take judgments on your behalf without even seeking your input? Even when we’re little, it’s normal for parents to advise kids on what to enjoy or behave. Still, it becomes poisonous and troublesome when they prevent kids from making their own decisions and forming their own identities without their interference or control. How gaslighting affects the child The rejection of facts is one of gaslighting’s most harmful elements. Being prevented from doing what you believe to be true and have witnessed. Anybody who experiences it may feel crazy, yet they are normal. The child may get confused, develop self-doubt, and have worse self-esteem due to the parent’s gaslighting tactics. They might experience depression or anxiety. In extreme circumstances, the youngster may suffer from mental health problems, including psychosis, as their warped world grows. What to do when you have a gaslighting parent The following actions can be taken by grown children who experience continual gaslighting

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Loss Of A Grandparent How To Dealing With It
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Loss Of A Grandparent and How to Dealing With It

Home The best relationships are those that you have with your grandparents. It’s never easy to lose someone so special, but it’s even worse if it’s your first time experiencing death. Grandparent death is often the first time a person experiences grief, which may be a perplexing and stressful time. In this article, we will discuss dealing with the loss of a grandparent. Table of Contents It might be your first time experiencing losing your loved one The death of a grandparent is frequently the first time person is connected to them feels. You can anticipate experiencing a range of complex emotions that occasionally seem overbearing. Although each person’s experience of grief is subtly different and particular to them, grieving grandchildren often share the following thoughts and feelings: You may experience emotional numbness or cry-proofing: Particularly if this is your first tragedy, you may notice that you reflect more on life and death. You can start to worry about the security of individuals close to you. You could feel like the “silent griever,” as if your loved ones are unaware of how much you are suffering. People might focus more on helping your parents or other grandparent and fail to recognize that you also need assistance. For some, grandparents felt more like a parent Many grandparents play an important part in a kid’s development by offering childcare for busy parents and spending time with their grandchildren frequently. Others are in charge of raising their grandchildren as the primary caregiver. Since grandparents often have a different viewpoint of the world than parents, many kids and teenagers may feel a strong bond. They may be confounded by the end of this personal connection. It goes without saying that the stronger the bond, the more intensely the grief will be felt, and for many adolescents and children today, it might seem like a parent has died. You may wish to spend more time with them Regret about not enjoying more time with your grandparents before they leave is a normal emotion. You may enquire about their life to find out more regarding them, or you could think back on the pleasant times you did have with them. Losing a grandparent as a child Children may find it difficult to communicate their feelings and exhibit emotion if they don’t have certain life events early on, such as losing a loved one.  When this occurs, the youngster is more likely to express their loss’s impact through several behavioral adjustments. If they spend more time at school or like to go out with their buddies, you could start to feel like they are avoiding you. They keep their distance to avoid getting hurt once more. Other kids start to cling to you more tightly to ensure you won’t pass away and abandon them. Some youngsters may display anger due to the helplessness they frequently feel after losing a loved one. It can also be a mark that your child is grieving the loss of a grandparent if they suddenly experience anxiety about the dark, have difficulties sleeping, or have trouble in school, especially if these behaviors are out of the pattern. Losing a grandparent as an adult Being an adult when a grandparent passes away doesn’t make it any less difficult. It still shocks you, and you have to give it a little more time to sink in. The loss would likely be excruciatingly painful if you were extremely close to them and relied on them to provide psychological, social, or other assistance. It may even result in losing a support system, a social identity, and other incidental losses. Be mindful that occasionally individuals misjudge situations based on their own past and fail to understand the gravity of your loss. Others will see your sorrow and attempt to console you, but occasionally they might approach you improperly or use the wrong language. That could be just as terrible in these circumstances as someone not understanding your grief. Coming to terms with the loss of a grandparent 1. Share the grieving; your other family members are grieving too Talking about the loss with your other family and friends is one of the greatest things you can do to acknowledge your emotions. You should be around for your parents because they might need your care. You should support your other grandparent, if they are still alive, during this trying period. You shouldn’t feel under constant pressure to be tough; you can both express your own sentiments while helping your family members. 2. Alcohol and drugs are not the answer Avoid using alcohol and drugs as comforting techniques. Alcohol can act as a depressive that impairs the functioning of the brain and central nervous system, making it more difficult to efficiently process and comprehend emotions. 3. Take care of yourself and get enough rest You should not neglect your own needs as you cope with the loss of your grandparent, which is crucial to remember. Make doubly sure you get enough sleep—without staying in bed all day—eat three nutritious meals daily, and take the opportunity to interact and spend time outside. It may be important to take care of other family members, but you shouldn’t fully neglect your health in the meantime. Even though you’ll still feel uneasy, maintaining a healthy routine might help. 4. Have a productive daily routines  If you feel stuck, one way you can do it is to change things up a little. You could find it more difficult to move on if you carry on with the same routine you had when your granddad or granny was living than if you made some changes. You can begin a new activity, devote more time to your family and relatives, or find a passion for reading or volunteering that you never knew. While you should resist making significant life decisions or extreme changes when you are grieving, little adjustments from time to time may give you the impression that you are settling into a new, upbeat routine. Also

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Feeling Stuck In Life And Career? Do These 10 Steps To Get Out Of The Slump
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Feeling Stuck In Life And Career? Do These 10 Steps To Get Out Of The Slump

Home People could feel stuck in life and careers because of unhealthy “unconscious thinking patterns” that cause everyone to perform, think, feel, and respond in certain directions. Here’s how to end these patterns of behavior. Table of Contents Do you ever feel stuck? Do you sense stuck in your life and career? You may feel as though you are standing still, that your work picks are preventing you from growing, or that your life is meaningless. You’re lost and perplexed and can’t see how to move forward. One of the main causes of stress in life is the feeling of being stuck. It has negative health impacts that are getting worse. The surface will eventually overpower you and harm your mental health after developing with time into fear and anxiety. Why do you feel stuck in life and your career? You can focus your efforts on reclaiming your sense of purpose and forward momentum by determining the source of your feelings. Here are some typical explanations for why you may currently feel emotionally and mentally stuck: Cognitive overload You may feel you’ve forgotten your sense of orientation when facing hard situations or difficulties in your life. Stress can leave you feeling stuck and confused about what to do, whether due to not sleeping properly or dealing with an unexpected crisis. Unconscious self-limitation  Seeking a way out frequently leads to self-limitation and self-sabotage. You may unknowingly act in a self-destructive manner if you are unhappy with your profession or your relationship. Mental health conditions Living with psychological issues like depression or anxiety may make you feel even more stuck. Limited vision You could experience a sense of stagnation if you don’t set clear ambitions for your career and personal life. Absence of support or resources This could be why you feel stuck in life if you’re isolated or your financial affairs have suffered. Perfectionism  Your work could be slowed if you focus too much time and effort on the smallest of details in an attempt to complete anything “ideally.” You might also have feelings of frustration or hopelessness as a result of this.  The emotional struggle between the wishes of self and others It’s normal to have tension between what you desire from life and what others think it should be. However, fluctuating between the two could hinder your personal development and leave you feeling hollow. Resistance to revolution If you resist change, you can continue to experience mental stagnation. People occasionally become stubborn and refuse to acknowledge loss, change, or transition. You may find it challenging to advance if your energy is being spent resisting the new. Absence of a deeper sense of purpose A sense of meaning is essential. You might go through an existential crisis if you don’t or lose it. Feeling as though your life is stuck is one of its symptoms. Reset: 10 tips to get unstuck There are many ways you can assist yourself in breaking free. The strategies listed below can help you break out of your cycle. 1. Remember that everyone has their own timeline Most individuals are acquainted with the pressure to accomplish certain “normal” life milestones at a given point.  Even if you constantly remind yourself not to worry about what other people are doing, it’s still difficult to resist comparisons from time to time, especially if someone else is achieving success much more quickly than you are. But reminding yourself that everyone has their own path to travel and that you are doing great in yours can help you get off the vicious feeling of being stuck. 2. Get out of your comfort zone and make a change Your good haven is where you are most comfortable. You must push yourself outside your comfort zone to see progress. If you feel trapped, it may be because your confidence overcame you. Start moving a little bit beyond your comfort zone to advance at work. Think about your fears and how they prevent you from changing, then take care of them in stages. 3. Be more conscious of yourself and your surroundings Awareness is a fantastic place to start. Look at how your subconscious can be causing you to feel stuck. Among the strategies to increase awareness are: recognizing the cognitive errors and protective systems that are impeding you identifying habitual relationship behaviors that lead you to repeat routine behaviors Also Read: Why you should surround yourself with positive people 4. Identify your goals, set a plan, and stay committed You may concentrate on the wrong things if you’re having trouble staying motivated at work. Perhaps you’re too preoccupied with achieving other people’s objectives to be aware of your own. Or maybe you simply lack a clear idea of where you want to head. If so, an adjustment might be in order. Instead, make an effort to concentrate on your own life and career goals. In addition, pave a plan for reaching that goal and stay committed to it. 5. Life isn’t perfect; detach from unrealistic expectations You might consider how your propensity for perfection, imposter disorder, or apprehension about failing hinders you. You can start by reminding yourself that life is imperfect and that your goals should be reasonable and achievable. 6. Embrace failure and learn from it Life includes failure as much as it has success.  You don’t always get things correct the first time. When you fail, you learn from it, get back up, and try again. You must be willing to learn from mistakes to stop feeling stuck in your profession. 7. Practice mindfulness Processing and overcoming unproductive thoughts can be done through meditation. Meditation entails to focus your attention on a single concept, thought, or perhaps nothing at all to center your body and promote calmness. 8. Brand yourself and build a connection What people are saying about you while you’re not present is known as your personal brand. You should consider what you want people to say since they will eventually talk when you are not in the room.

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Why Can'T I Cry? 3 Reasons And What To Do When You Can'T Cry
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Why Can’t I Cry? What to Do When You Can’t Cry

Home There are some struggling times when you can’t cry, no matter how much you try and want to. You might be wondering why can’t I cry even though I’m grieving and need a good cry. If you feel like this, you’re not alone in this and have nothing to worry about. Crying is a natural response to pain and emotions and a cathartic experience for everyone. Yet, many of us can’t shed tears even when facing distressing circumstances. You must be finding the answers to – Why does this happen? Why can’t I cry? There are several reasons, from physical ailment to emotional state, for your inability to cry. Keep reading to learn the emotional and medical reasons behind your inability to cry and what you can do to deal with it. Table of Contents Is crying bad for me? Crying is absolutely not bad, it is a healthy way to release your emotions that are stuck inside. However, excessive crying is not a good sign. If you tear up often on a little matter or just by assuming some things, it means you’re experiencing difficult emotions or struggling with anxiety or depression. Remember that everyone is different: some people easily tear up more than others. Some people feel deeper emotions, or some have reasonable control over their tears and express their feelings differently.  Crying is a way to express negative emotions such as pain, sadness, loneliness, disappointment, and grief. So, it’s not bad for you, and you need to allow yourself to feel emotions and release them. But, if you feel you have difficulty crying and your well runs dry, it’s essential to explore the reasons associated with it and find a way to deal with it. What are the benefits of crying? Crying is often seen as a sign of weakness, but this thought has no truth. Instead, crying is a natural way to remove toxins and negative emotions from the body, so it has various physical, social, and psychological benefits. Here are some of the benefits of letting your tears flow: Tears cleanse your eyes by removing smoke and onion fumes, lubricate your eyes, and protect your eyes from allergens. In addition, tears provide vital nutrients to your eyes. Crying gives you pain relief. When you cry, your body releases endorphin and oxytocin hormones which relieve pain and emotional distress. Tears are mood boosters and sound like self-soothing. After crying, you feel relaxed and in a good mood. Crying help you communicate emotions by connecting with your friends and family and letting them understand your feelings I feel sad, but why can’t I cry? Now, after knowing the benefits of crying, you might be more worried about knowing the answer to this question arising in your mind: why can’t I cry? Here we have come to this part. There are multiple reasons why you may struggle to cry. Let’s take a look at these reasons. 1. Medical causes Medical causes are one of the biggest reasons for your inability to produce tears. Certain medical conditions make it difficult or impossible to cry, such as dry eye syndrome or keratoconjunctivitis sicca, which is known to inhibit the production of tears.  This disorder is prevalent in people who use contact lenses and older people. Also, laser eye surgery and taking certain medications such as birth control pills, antidepressants, or SSRIs can reduce tear production. 2. Mental health causes The second and most significant reason for your dry eyes can be mental health conditions. If you are struggling with mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, schizophrenia, or major depressive disorder, it can be the biggest reason why you can’t cry. Conditions like these can make you feel flat, mute your emotions, and make you disinterested in the world, which prevents you from crying. In addition, repressing your feelings for the long-term results in emotional numbing, which affects your ability to cry. If you’re surviving abuse, emotional or physical, it can be a reason for your muted emotions. Because abuse negatively impacts your mental health, and you learn not to cry. 3. Stigma about crying Another possible reason for this struggle is personal beliefs and cultural stigma about crying. Most people consider crying a sign of weakness in adulthood, and they keep holding their tears intentionally, no matter how much worse it happens. Certain cultural and societal standards shame them for crying, which becomes a learned behavior, and they never learn to see crying as a naturally healthy way of expressing emotions. Furthermore, if you’re a man and you’ve heard statements like “boys don’t cry,” it can be a big reason that makes you think it’s wrong to cry and you avoid crying. However, this is far from the truth because every human being feels emotions, and they should cry to express those emotions and feel relaxed. What to do when I can’t cry? Now you’ve got to know the answer to your question- why can’t I cry? It’s crucial to learn how to deal with it, and it’s possible to do so; you need to try some things. Here are a few things to help you release your feelings and let your fears flow. 1. Redefine the negative stigma about crying Most importantly, reframe your thinking, let go of your untrue personal beliefs, and allow yourself to feel your emotions. Crying is a very healthy and self-soothing experience.  After a good cry, you’ll feel comfortable as you have released difficult emotions like pain, stress, or sadness. Remember, it’s not a sign of weakness or something you’ve to be embarrassed about. 2. Identify your emotions and be more comfortable to express them How can you express your emotions if you cannot identify them? Therefore, the first thing to do is to notice and identify your feelings and face them. Identify when you’re anxious or frustrated and think about what triggered the feeling. Once you identify them, you’ll be able to express and cope with them.  Besides

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Why Can'T I Cry? 3 Reasons And What To Do When You Can'T Cry
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Why Can’t I Cry? 3 Reasons and What to Do When You Can’t Cry

Home There are some struggling times when you can’t cry, no matter how much you try and want to. You might be wondering why can’t I cry even though I’m grieving and need a good cry. If you feel like this, you’re not alone in this and have nothing to worry about. Crying is a natural response to pain and emotions and a cathartic experience for everyone. Yet, many of us can’t shed tears even when facing distressing circumstances. You must be finding the answers to – Why does this happen? Why can’t I cry? There are several reasons, from physical ailment to emotional state, for your inability to cry. Keep reading to learn the emotional and medical reasons behind your inability to cry and what you can do to deal with it. Table of Contents Is crying bad for me? Crying is absolutely not bad, it is a healthy way to release your emotions that are stuck inside. However, excessive crying is not a good sign. If you tear up often on a little matter or just by assuming some things, it means you’re experiencing difficult emotions or struggling with anxiety or depression. Remember that everyone is different: some people easily tear up more than others. Some people feel deeper emotions, or some have reasonable control over their tears and express their feelings differently.  Crying is a way to express negative emotions such as pain, sadness, loneliness, disappointment, and grief. So, it’s not bad for you, and you need to allow yourself to feel emotions and release them. But, if you feel you have difficulty crying and your well runs dry, it’s essential to explore the reasons associated with it and find a way to deal with it. What are the benefits of crying? Crying is often seen as a sign of weakness, but this thought has no truth. Instead, crying is a natural way to remove toxins and negative emotions from the body, so it has various physical, social, and psychological benefits. Here are some of the benefits of letting your tears flow: Tears cleanse your eyes by removing smoke and onion fumes, lubricate your eyes, and protect your eyes from allergens. In addition, tears provide vital nutrients to your eyes. Crying gives you pain relief. When you cry, your body releases endorphin and oxytocin hormones which relieve pain and emotional distress. Tears are mood boosters and sound like self-soothing. After crying, you feel relaxed and in a good mood. Crying help you communicate emotions by connecting with your friends and family and letting them understand your feelings I feel sad, but why can’t I cry? Now, after knowing the benefits of crying, you might be more worried about knowing the answer to this question arising in your mind: why can’t I cry? Here we have come to this part. There are multiple reasons why you may struggle to cry. Let’s take a look at these reasons. 1. Medical causes Medical causes are one of the biggest reasons for your inability to produce tears. Certain medical conditions make it difficult or impossible to cry, such as dry eye syndrome or keratoconjunctivitis sicca, which is known to inhibit the production of tears.  This disorder is prevalent in people who use contact lenses and older people. Also, laser eye surgery and taking certain medications such as birth control pills, antidepressants, or SSRIs can reduce tear production. 2. Mental health causes The second and most significant reason for your dry eyes can be mental health conditions. If you are struggling with mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, schizophrenia, or major depressive disorder, it can be the biggest reason why you can’t cry. Conditions like these can make you feel flat, mute your emotions, and make you disinterested in the world, which prevents you from crying. In addition, repressing your feelings for the long-term results in emotional numbing, which affects your ability to cry. If you’re surviving abuse, emotional or physical, it can be a reason for your muted emotions. Because abuse negatively impacts your mental health, and you learn not to cry. 3. Stigma about crying Another possible reason for this struggle is personal beliefs and cultural stigma about crying. Most people consider crying a sign of weakness in adulthood, and they keep holding their tears intentionally, no matter how much worse it happens. Certain cultural and societal standards shame them for crying, which becomes a learned behavior, and they never learn to see crying as a naturally healthy way of expressing emotions. Furthermore, if you’re a man and you’ve heard statements like “boys don’t cry,” it can be a big reason that makes you think it’s wrong to cry and you avoid crying. However, this is far from the truth because every human being feels emotions, and they should cry to express those emotions and feel relaxed. What to do when I can’t cry? Now you’ve got to know the answer to your question- why can’t I cry? It’s crucial to learn how to deal with it, and it’s possible to do so; you need to try some things. Here are a few things to help you release your feelings and let your fears flow. 1. Redefine the negative stigma about crying Most importantly, reframe your thinking, let go of your untrue personal beliefs, and allow yourself to feel your emotions. Crying is a very healthy and self-soothing experience.  After a good cry, you’ll feel comfortable as you have released difficult emotions like pain, stress, or sadness. Remember, it’s not a sign of weakness or something you’ve to be embarrassed about. 2. Identify your emotions and be more comfortable to express them How can you express your emotions if you cannot identify them? Therefore, the first thing to do is to notice and identify your feelings and face them. Identify when you’re anxious or frustrated and think about what triggered the feeling. Once you identify them, you’ll be able to express and cope with them.  Besides

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What Is Manifesting? 7 Things You Need To Do With It
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What Is Manifesting? 7 Things You Need To Do With It

Home Manifesting is the interesting act of turning a goal or desire into reality through spiritual practices and taking inspired actions. It is more than just getting what you desire. While you might not know much about manifesting, people who tried it can not stop talking about how they manifested their dreams to become a reality and say it really works.   Manifestation is real and nothing new. If you believe you can do it, you will do it if you set your mind to it.  Ever wanted something in your life so badly? Then, it is a perfect time to try by putting your positive thinking into practice and bringing your dreams to life. Looking to give it a try? You might be wondering- what is manifesting? Does manifesting work? Can I manifest anything? What are the best strategies for manifestation? Here in this article, we’ll explore how manifesting works and the steps you take to manifest anything you want- money, a new job, or relationships. Table of Contents What is manifesting, exactly? In simple words, manifesting is the ability to attract something and bring it into reality using the power of our minds, feelings, and belief. Also, it is the conscious creation of a vision for the future and putting all your effort & energy into making the vision a reality. When we understand what we want for our life experience, we focus on it and create those outcomes; this is manifesting. Manifesting comes from the ancient principle, the law of attraction, which means you can attract or manifest what you want in life with positive thoughts and actions. With enough practice and intentional energy, you can manifest anything- it can be a new job, a dream vacation, good grades, a successful business, a loving relationship, or better health.  The manifestation was popularized by a self-help book and a documentary by Rhonda Byrne named “The Secret.” The 30 million copies of this best-selling book were sold around the globe, encouraging people to visualize the goals to attract what they want. Besides, the thought leaders, including Oprah Winfrey, Eckhart Tolley, Deepak Chopra, Gabrielle Bernstein, and Iyanla Vanzant, have spoken about it and supported the manifestation process they have used to achieve their goals. Does manifestation actually work? The idea of manifestation is really accurate, and it does work. Once you understand the logic behind it, you’ll realize we all are subconsciously manifesting in our lives. But when we consciously focus our thoughts & mindset on the goal we want, that’s where manifestation works.  There is also little scientific evidence that manifestation works. However, most mental health specialists recommend this practice. So, it works, but we need to live by the rules of reality to create reality. Like, if you want to manifest billions of dollars overnight- that is not realistic. It does not happen instantly, and the process takes time.  Most importantly, negative thoughts and limiting beliefs can be hurdles to manifesting what you want. If you don’t believe you are able to do this, then you won’t be able to do this. You have to trust the process and the journey you’re on. Your mind is a magnet, so you’ll attract what you think. Achieving your goals is possible- first and foremost, you’ve to believe in yourself. Manifestation doesn’t happen overnight; what do you need to do? Although manifesting is about turning your dreams into reality. But, if you think you’ll be a billionaire overnight or manifest a new home in a day- that’s far from reality. Manifestation does not happen overnight; you need more for it than just thoughts and willpower. So, what do you need to do?  Let’s discuss effective manifestation methods to focus on where you want to be. So, open your mind, be ready to play the long game, and let’s get manifesting! 1. Begin manifestation by setting your goals  The first step towards manifestation is setting clear goals. You need to be crystal clear about what you want, whether it’s a new job, new home, or new partner; know it and make it as precisely as possible. What do you want? Why do you want to manifest it? What will it add to your file? Your answers should be concise, so you have a clear picture of the goals in your mind. It’s also suggested to create a vision board, write your goals with images, and hang it somewhere you see it every day. Creating a vision board and seeing it every day will remind you to keep going. 2. Start working on your goals Once you set your goals, it’s time to take action. Start working on your goals with positive intentions. Also, make actionable goals that are achievable and realistic. If you want to lose weight, start doing a 10-minute workout or a walk daily. If you wish to change your career, spend 20 minutes daily looking for openings or reaching out to employers via email. Also Read: Build Your Confidence In 10 Steps 3. Do journaling to track your progress Journaling is a great way to record your thoughts, goals, and progress without judgment. When you are manifesting, journaling is important. Get your manifestation journal and make a habit of writing your progress on it daily. Journaling will help you track your progress, recognize your weaknesses and get clear on your intentions. 4. Be patient while manifesting As we discussed, manifesting takes some time to work, especially if you want to manifest something big. There can be obstacles or setbacks, and here, your dedication will be tested. Therefore, be patient in the process and stay consistent.  Your patience will carry you through hurdles and make you cross the finish line. Break down your long-term goals into small steps, work on them daily, have faith in yourself, and trust the process. 5. Small progress is still a progress A manifestation usually takes work and time. Therefore, it’s important to celebrate small successes. If you’re making little progress, it means you’re progressing

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How To Detach From Someone
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9 Steps How to Detach From Someone You Loved, Letting Go Ain’t Easy

Whether it is a toxic relationship with your family, friend, or a complicated romantic relationship, there comes a time you’ve to get emotionally detached and let go. Letting go and detaching from someone you loved is the worst part of the relationship cycle. I know this is overwhelming to get a person out of your heart & mind. But, it’s crucial to detach from someone with whom you have an unhealthy relationship for the sake of your mental health and overall wellbeing.  The question is how we can emotionally detach from someone we love so deeply. Before knowing the answer to this question, it is important to accept the reality of your relationship that is draining you mentally and physically and know what emotional detachment is. In this article, I’ll discuss emotional detachment and provide you with 9 strategies and tips to detach from someone and guard your emotions and love. Read on to learn how to detach from someone. What does detachment mean? Detachment means disconnecting from the people that are causing you stress or anxiety. It means building boundaries to protect your mental health. Emotional detachment is the ability to end all emotional attachment or ties with your partner, and it is considered an act of self-defense. Detachment from toxic people is healthy. However, it is not an easy process and takes time & effort. But by setting clear boundaries in your toxic relationship and detaching from someone you loved, you can avoid stress, disappointments, anger, and resentment. Now you may have pretty much an idea of what detachment is; let’s move to its importance in a relationship and how you can detach from someone you love. Why is emotional detachment crucial in a relationship? Detaching someone is a daunting task, but it has far-reaching awards. Whether it’s an unhealthy relationship with one of the family members or an intimate relationship, emotional detachment can help you walk away from the complicated relationship and protect your affections. Because staying in a relationship with a partner who does not prioritize you and does not pay attention to you can cause untold harm to your wellbeing. With emotional detachment, you’ll be able to go through and deal with negative emotions, become independent, move towards personal growth and make better decisions for yourself. How to detach from someone? If you are figuring out how to end emotional attachment with someone you loved, here are the nine steps to try now: 1. Know when and why you have to let go First and foremost, find the reason for detaching from a relationship. Identify why you want to let go in the first place. It is hard to detach from someone without a concrete reason. So, find the root cause due to which your feelings have changed. After finding the solid reason, focus on progressive things, and the reason must be enough to help you slowly detach yourself. 2. Evaluate your relationship and the consequences of your decision Now that you’ve decided to detach from someone you have loved, take time to evaluate your relationship with them. In addition, consider the consequences of this decision. Because detaching from someone will affect your family, social life, finances, and professional life. Both these things will help you solidify your decision. 3. Take a physical break After making the permanent decision to detach from someone you have had feelings for, it is necessary to take a physical break. You can move out of the house, travel to a different city, keep yourself busy with new hobbies, or shift to a separate room if you’re living together. Remember that it may feel bad at the start, but it is best. Try to use your head, not your heart. 4. Set boundaries and step back gradually Everything you’ve done can go to waste if you don’t set clear boundaries. Communicate with your partner and define the parameters & set clear boundaries. Emotional detachment can not come overnight. So, start taking baby steps to step back. You will not accomplish this if you rush yourself to make this overnight. So, step back slowly and let time do the magic. 5. Create a plan on how you’re going to move on How are you going to move on? What’s the plan? Think of the future and figure out what you will do. Create a plan. You can seek help from the people you trust: it could be your family members or friends. Also, ensure your plan does not include them in your future goals. You’ve to become independent.  6. Take a break from social media or even block them if needed Everyone is using social media nowadays. You used to share the moments of your romantic relationship with them on Instagram, which can be a stressor at this time.  Therefore, take a break from social media, you’ll see old memories, and people can ask questions about not posting these days that can trigger your feelings. Moreover, you can block them from social media if needed so you can no longer see their accounts. 7. Start some new positive routines This is time to start new routines and become so good that you don’t have to depend on others. During this period, you may experience a range of emotions. It is good to write a journal to pen down your feelings and make them process in a healthy way. Besides, start meditation to reduce your stress, improve focus and diminish negative emotions. Also Read: 7 Morning Rituals For A Successful Day 8. Let yourself grieve for a while Emotional detachment or breaking up with someone follows with a lot of grieving. You feel bad, guilty, and grief. Don’t avoid this phase: it is OK to let yourself grieve and feel. It is completely normal to grieve. So, express yourself and release emotions. Also Read: Learn How To Be Yourself In 10 Easy Steps 9. Talk to a therapist or life coach Last but not least, seek help from a therapist or

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Hyper Independence Might Be A Trauma Response: 5 Signs You Should Know

Home Independence is a valuable trait that is highly valued. It means you can get things done on your own without relying on others. But, if you attempt to handle all issues and do things alone that go beyond your limit and never ask for help from anyone, this is hyper independence. Hyper independence means you’re more likely to suffer, and it can damage your mental health and overall well-being. You must have heard the saying that too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. It perfectly fits hyper-independent people. Now you must be wondering whether I am independent or hyper-independent. No worries. In this article, I’ll explore what is hyper independence and the five signs that show you are ultra-independence. Let’s begin! Table of Contents What is hyper independence? Hyper independence is when you tackle life challenges alone and refuse to seek assistance of any kind, even if it may negatively affect you. You are obsessed with your independence and feel a sense of weakness in accepting aid from others. Hyper independence or ultra independence can be a trauma response to past events. These events may occur at work, school, home, in social life, or in your love life. You feel difficult to trust others or don’t want them around you, so you only rely on yourself. Being hyper-independent makes you emotionally distant and isolated from people around you. You become overly self-reliant. This kind of behavior and thoughts are due to traumatic stress that taught you only to trust yourself in every situation. Moreover, it can ruin your love life. If you had a bad relationship experience in the past that had broken your heart, then hyper-independence can be related to this past trauma response. Like, you think you don’t need a partner, you can do everything on your own, single life is much better, and relationships are complicated. So, you have a fear of being hurt, betrayed, or abandoned.  Also Read: Feeling Stuck In Denial? Do These 4 Things To Overcome It 5 signs you’re ultra-independence Here are the 5 signs to determine whether your personality has hyper independence or not. 1. “I need no help. I can do it all by myself.” You can handle anything or try to do and never ask for help, no matter how hard you’re struggling, because you don’t want to rely on other people and ever need them. Furthermore, you have a fear of being a burden and can not trust others. These are the signs of hyper-independence. 2. You’re a workaholic Another sign of hyper independence is that you always stay busy with work and obsessively focus on your career and academics. You have excuses to cancel plans and deny all other commitments like family, partner, or friends. Also Read: What Makes A Good Team? Here Are 8 Significant Qualities 3. It feels hard to delegate tasks If you feel difficulty in delegating tasks to others when you’re in an authority or leadership role- hyper independence is the reason why. It can also be due to your problem of trusting others to do things. You think it can remove your power, and you have the ability to solve anything. Moreover, you want to make sure that all tasks are done according to your liking. 4. You find it tough to maintain a long-term relationship Another sign that shows you’re hyper-independent is that you struggle with maintaining long-term relationships, whether friendship or love. You don’t feel comfortable being close to someone and opening up to them. Besides, you want to avoid emotional attachment and are not good at making others feel wanted. 5. You don’t like it when someone gets over clingy Lastly, when someone shows clingy behavior and acts a bit needy, you do not like it and run the other way. If your partner or friends keep insisting you spend time with them, text or call you a lot, and go into a panic when you don’t respond, you feel suffocated. Because you consider it a sign of weakness, this is also one of the common signs of hyper independence. Bottom line Being independent is good; it shows you’re strong and self-sufficient. But there is nothing to be ashamed of about asking for help. We all are human, and we crave love and affection.  If you are hyper-independent and feel yourself refusing to accept help and pushing people away, know that you’re not alone. However, doing it all on your own can affect your physical and mental health. Hyper independence is a common trauma response. So, if you are experiencing traumatic stress and struggling to manage trauma and improve relationships with others, consider connecting with a counselor or therapist. If you’re looking for online therapy that doesn’t break your bank, you can try out my free discovery session. I’d love to help you develop positive coping skills and find the root cause of your trauma. Develop Your Confidence Starting Today With A FREE Discovery Call FREE DISCOVERY CALL

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