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Emotionally Unavailable Parents
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7 Signs of Emotionally Unavailable Parents and Tips to Deal with It

Home Are you struggling to make sense of your emotionally unavailable parents? You’re not alone. Millions of people around us are sailing across similar waters. As an adult, our parents provide us with an essential sense of guidance and validation in our lives. The emotionally available parents help you show that they care about you for who you are as an individual- they are invested and interested in your life. But all parents are not emotionally available to their children. The emotionally unavailable parents make it hard for their children to trust and build meaningful relationships with them.  Here, I’ll look at the signs of emotionally unavailable parents and how to deal with them. Table of Contents What is an emotionally unavailable parent? According to 2017 research, emotional availability is a crucial indicator of relationship quality. It extends beyond the essential characteristics that promote attachment during childhood and takes into account a parent’s ability to develop a favourable emotional environment that supports education, independence, and personal development. Emotionally unavailable parents don’t meet the psychological requirements of their children and do not provide them with the comfort and validation needed for their mental health.  They have been unresponsive in moments when emotions were expected. Such parents are unable to offer their emotional responses in the face of your emotional needs. Growing up with emotionally unavailable parents develops deep-rooted insecurities, anxiety, fear, depression, dissociative identity disorder, and bipolar disorder in their kids. Why are some parents present but absent? Present but absent is a self-explanatory concept, meaning parents are still in the home and unavailable.  When parents are not able to share their hearts or express love and affection for their kids, they are in the act of present but absent parenting. Absent parenting doesn’t mean physically absent, but it is understood as the emotional unavailability of parents, lack of active involvement, and unresponsiveness to the kids’ needs. Kids are always looking for affirmation from their parents, whom they view as their ideals. So if you never get praised or don’t feel loved, you’ll feel lonely even in a home full of people. When a parent is consistently absent, the children assume that they are not worth their parent’s time.   Here are a few examples of present but absent parents, They never say, “I love you.” They are around but unapproachable They are always busy watching TV, working, or using the screen They shun physical affection They are going through prolonged stress  Also Read: How To Ask For A Divorce Peacefully: 9 Things To Consider How absent parenting might hurt the children? Kids crave affirmation and attention. Children would develop a low sense of self-worth without attention, affection, kind words, and quality time. They wouldn’t feel smart, attractive, loveable, or worthwhile. The children might feel rejected daily if a parent is present but absent in performing their duties.  Since the children of present but absent parents don’t believe in themselves, they are reluctant to step out and try new things. Unfortunately, this results in the deprivation of self-worth and self-confidence.  In a nutshell, if parents don’t give their children the necessary affection, attention, and love, they’ll find it somewhere else.  Unfortunately, this behaviour leads to dangerous outcomes in children, such as self-harming and drug abuse.  Signs you have emotionally unavailable parents Let’s unpack the signs of emotionally unavailable parents. 1. Your parents don’t listen to you. Detached parents don’t listen to you; it doesn’t matter to them what you say or how much you try to be a good listener.   Detached parents are unable to pay attention to their kids. They’re either entirely withdrawn or preoccupied. You may feel frustrated, unwanted, and unloved due to their inability to pay attention and the lack of validation necessary for healthy relationships.  2. They’re not interested in your life. Emotionally unavailable parents don’t ask about what is going on in your life; it’ll make you feel that they’re not interested in who you are, and they can spend their time better with someone else. If there is less conversation at home, this develops the feeling of loneliness and boredom in you. This behavior is frequently accompanied by feelings of inadequacy, which is entirely normal but is also untrue. You’re not insignificant just because your parents aren’t well-socialized. They are at fault, not you. 3. They never validate your hard work or achievements. You score well on a tough test and do well in sports and other activities, but your parents don’t validate your hard work and achievements. They scarcely respond when you inform them. It can be devastating when they don’t care about what you do with your life or what you have achieved. Emotionally unavailable parents don’t recognize your efforts, and this lack of recognition can cause you to question their self-worth and potentially lead you down a negative path.  4. Your parents aren’t engaging in your activities. It might be sad and upsetting to realize that your parents are missing out on the exciting things happening in your life if they aren’t interested in participating in activities with you. If you think this is happening, talk to them about why they don’t want to join and see if there is anything you can say to convince them to change their minds or at least be more receptive to the notion of once a week being a family activity night. 5. They barely put any effort into spending time with you. Emotionally unavailable parents don’t put any effort into spending time with you and making you feel necessary. It can be devastating to know that they don’t care about you and are not proud of you.  This type of behavior is a marker of someone with detachment or self-centered issues and makes you feel worthless and unloved.   Try to get them to open up to you about the things in their life that are most important; perhaps they’re stressed out or overworked right now. 6. They are constantly yelling every time you make

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Being On Time
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8 Reasons Why Being On Time Is Important

Home Why Being On Time Is Important – Even though ethics has changed significantly over the past few decades, some standards have not altered, even though many people decide to ignore them. Being on time is among the most essential rules. Why is it so important? Let’s explore. Table of Contents The IMPORTANCE OF PUNCTUALITY: WHY BEING ON TIME IS IMPORTANT 1. BEING ON TIME SHOWS THAT YOU CARE Firstly being punctual demonstrates caring. You try to arrive at your appointment, trip, or event early because you value the other person and their time. Many people can come up with the feeling that you are late since you don’t bother, even though that may not necessarily be the case. 2. IT SHOWS YOUR RESPECT FOR YOUR OWN AND OTHER PEOPLE’S TIME Being on time for appointments with other individuals will assist you in presenting your best self. If you were asking, being late for a meeting involves more than just being a few minutes late. It directly affects how you interact with other individuals. Your behavior is a testament to your respect for and consideration of other persons. Any delay has a significant influence on the time and plans of others. Others will be inconvenienced by your delay in their daily activities. Because of your delay, other people will need to alter their schedules. Your activities will cause them difficulty, and they might even become irritated, annoyed, or enraged. 3. BEING PUNCTUAL SHOWCASING YOUR PROFESSIONALISM & TRUSTWORTHINESS Arriving on time might help you demonstrate competence, including behavior guidelines, professional ideals, and other qualities. Being on time or early for work can establish your dependability and credibility as a worker. Being on time regularly can also show your professionalism, which will raise your worth as a worker and assist you in progressing in your job. 4. IT HELPS YOU REDUCE STRESS Being punctual for work has the added benefit of lowering stress. Being late for work frequently results in frustration since projects and assignments seem hasty. You can offer yourself plenty of time to finish activities at a leisurely speed by arriving early or on time. Additionally, it can give you extra time to deal with unforeseen circumstances like traffic that might delay your arrival at work. Pressure can be decreased initially by giving oneself more time and not feeling hurried. 5. YOUR PUNCTUALITY MAKES YOU STAY ON SCHEDULE By enabling you to finish all of your tasks during working hours, staying punctual can indeed assist you in meeting your own timetable. You risk missing meetings and falling behind on crucial duties if you arrive late to work, which can necessitate working past your regular schedule. Being punctual can help you finish your job on schedule or early and free up time for other activities. Additionally, it guarantees you can leave on time, which aids in keeping a positive work-life balance. 6. IT CREATES A POSITIVE IMAGE When it pertains to your job, this is crucial. When you consistently arrive late for appointments or miss commitments, you come across as rather careless; it suggests that you don’t care and aren’t willing to do the work. Word will get around, and you won’t be taken seriously. People may become wary of working with you due to their concern that you may ruin their plans. Additionally, if your superior coworkers don’t trust you to take your work seriously, why then should they recommend you for raises or exciting new chances? 7. COMING ON TIME SAVES YOUR MONEY AND ENERGY Ever arrive late and miss a plane or a performance? Have you ever spent more on parking since a meeting over schedule? When you don’t pick up your kids on schedule, does the childcare cost you by the minute? Being late can result in some expensive blunders. Being punctual all the time will help you avoid a range of late fees and penalties and enable you to take advantage of valuable first-come, first-served opportunities. 8. IT HELPS YOU REACH YOUR GOALS, SOONER Being on time will enable you to complete the subsequent task and the one after it without delay. Even while the difference may not seem like much, those moments add fast. Being on time can be a quality that affects how efficient you are throughout the day and how a lot gets done. Additionally, it is a quality that builds up with time because you will probably experience additional advantages. For example, it might work to your advantage if you gain a name for being reliable and on time. Although you are occasionally late, limiting the harm caused by this circumstance is much simpler when you are regularly on time. Also Read: Feeling Stuck In Denial? THE TAKEAWAY? Everybody struggles with punctuality, but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Even those who have trouble keeping their appointments will confess that being on time just requires a little forethought and, most crucially, recognizing to yourself that keeping meetings counts. Just consider it. When being on time is something you genuinely care about, you can accomplish it.  This is because the best time management tip isn’t a tip. Simply understanding the value of punctuality suffices. Learn To Be On Time Starting Today With A FREE Discovery Call FREE DISCOVERY CALL

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Fear Of Divorce And How To Overcome It
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Fear Of Divorce Is Normal, Here’re 7 Ways How To Overcome It

Home Fear Of Divorce – Divorce is harrowing and one of the most stressful events in a person’s life, so fear of divorce is expected before, during, or after this process. Even if your marriage is difficult and you accept that divorce is the only reasonable option, you might still be scared. Divorce puts us on a rollercoaster of emotions, from terrified to stress. You think you’ll never be happy again, you’re afraid to see a divorce attorney, and you face unknown fears. In this article, I’ll discuss some common divorce fears and ways to overcome those fears. Table of Contents Feeling fear of divorce is normal Getting fear of divorce is scary but know that you’re not alone. I understand your emotions and society’s pressure on staying married. Don’t let yourself believe that you are crazy or alone. It’s important to remember that the fear of divorce is normal, and it can offer you new beginnings, Everyone feels anxious about divorce, and they have to deal with a lot of fears. During the divorce process, you are likely to experience significant life changes in every aspect of your life. Your divorce will affect your children, your finances, your home, your family, your in-laws, your friends, and probably your pets. You have to manage these fears with a proactive and direct approach. Besides, seek out therapy and go to a divorce coach. You saw that I recommend therapy or counseling very much because I know how much it is helpful in the divorce process. And I see it has been life-changing for most of my clients. A therapist or divorce coach can help you recognize your fears and give you an action plan. Common divorce fears and ways to overcome it So what are the common divorce fears? Divorce is scary, so it is imperative to understand your fears to conquer them. Here, I have mentioned some of the most common divorce fears that arise while making a divorce decision: 1. “How about my children” The number one and real fear is regarding your children. You have a fear that your divorce will affect your children, and they won’t recover from it. Because children are important in any relationship and the parents’ separation is stressful for them. A study in 2014 found that even though each child and each family are clearly special, divorce has been shown to decrease a child’s future competence in all spheres of life, including family relationships, education, emotional well-being, and future earning power. 2. “Will my kids be mad at me because of this decision?” You are afraid that your kid might be angry with you or they will feel abandoned. I’ve seen couples who stayed married just for the sake of the kids, but this did not work, and it made their marriage more toxic, which could have worse impacts on children. To cope with this fear, you should maintain a healthy relationship with your partner before divorce and make the kids understand your feelings about divorce. Don’t argue with your partner in front of your kids. You have to protect them from the negativity of divorce. Children love both parents. Therefore, don’t say negative things about your partner in front of them. It’ll hurt them. In addition, consider your child’s needs above your own and give them time to adjust. Moreover, discuss your feelings in words they understand so they don’t think afterward that their father or mother has left them in the process. 3. “Where will I live?” Another fear of divorce is the fear of the future, where I will live. Life is uncertain, and you don’t know what will happen in the future. It is quite possible to sell out the marital home. So, start working out to be independent and buy or rent the home. It is wise to see a house near your children if you’re a non-resident parent. It will help you stay close to your children and see them often. Divorce is about fresh beginnings, so you’ve to prepare for it. 4. “How will I manage my finance?” Managing finances is the other biggest fear of divorce. To manage this fear, start saving for the post-divorce period. Focus on income, monthly outgoings, and assets and do financial planning. Besides, check your bank accounts; if they’re joint, close them before the divorce. 5. “How will I face my parents and my in-laws?” Losing your in-laws and facing parents are also big fears. In-laws are very close to you and your children, so your divorce can be tough for them. If you have a good relationship with your in-laws, they’ll likely continue the same after the end of the divorce process. Thus, be respectful to them. On the other hand, parents also care about you and your spouse. Therefore, be clear with them and discuss your decision. Because only they are the support system that can be available emotionally and financially to you in this painful process. 6. “Who is to take care of our pets?” If you’ve pets and you’re good friends with them, you might wonder who will take care of and live with them. For it, you need to sit and communicate calmly with your partner, who can provide a better home and love for pets. Also, you can do so that whoever will be the children’s caregiver will take care of the pets too. 7. “Can I still be friends with my soon-to-ex-spouse?” As a coach and therapist, I advise you to be friends and have good terms with your ex-spouse. If you’ve children, then it is vital. Communicate with each other often as you have to deal with many aspects later. Also, it’s good to help each other if someone is in trouble after the divorce. The divorce process can negatively affect your mental health and drain you emotionally and mentally. Apart from it, you might have emotional and mental fears. So, have belief in yourself, focus on the positive, do self-care, get therapy,

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Innerchild
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Types Of Inner Child: Which Archetype Are You?

Home Types Of Inner Child – We still have inner children brimming with wonder, astonishment, and purity. We often feel energized, inspired, and enthusiastic when our inner child is happy and we are engaged with him. What transpires if we are cut off from our inner child because of trauma from the old days? Adults who suppress their inner child experience feelings of disconnection from life, exhaustion, emptiness, and unhappiness. This article will delve more into the subject of types of the inner child and how these children can impact adults. Table of Contents Understanding the concept of the inner child The term “Inner Child” in popular psychiatry alludes to a part of the personality structure that contains childhood and adolescent behaviors, memories, feelings, beliefs, dispositions, and cognitive patterns. It is also known as the “Divine Child,” “Wonder Child,” “Real Self,” or just “The Child Inside.” Most frequently, the psychiatrist Carl Jung (1875–1961) is credited with coining the phrase “inner child.” One of the numerous archetypes identified by Jung is the divine child. Jung rejected the notion that we entered this world with a clean canvas and held that everyone carries within them predefined “primordial pictures.” The human unconscious manifests itself through Carl Jung’s archetypes. These possibilities become fulfilled when they come into consciousness and display in the form of actions and interactions with the outer world. Our behavior is subconsciously driven by an ingrained archetype. According to famous psychology, the inner child archetype is comparable to a subconscious subpersonality made up of lessons and experiences from a person’s earlier stages.  Despite being subordinated to conscious awareness, this inner child character nonetheless has power over it. A negative impact will be felt if the inner child is wounded, injured, or apprehensive. Jungian psychotherapy’s purpose is to help this inner child heal. Psychologists help their patients recognize the trauma and sorrow of their inner child via a procedure of conscious “re-parenting.” The person is liberated from the need to obey the capricious, subconscious child’s impulses by engaging gently with this inner child to train them in new behavior responses. 7  types of inner child Inner child archetypes come in seven different varieties. Each possesses excellent and bad qualities that emerge during our lives, from womb to tomb. The child archetype that has resonated with you the most throughout your existence represents your actual inner child, even though everyone has experienced some characteristics of every child archetype at a particular moment. 1. The wounded child The wounded child type carries recollections of a tragic or harsh background. During a person’s lifetime, they might well have endured a tremendous degree of physical and psychological abuse, frequently through the hands of numerous persons. Once this archetype is harmonized and embraced, it might make us more compassionate toward those subjected to abuse. Their attention shifts to mercy and brightness, assisting other hurting children in overcoming their wounds. However, in a negative sense, this child archetype can continue to behave abusively against lovers, colleagues, and friends. They get used to playing the victim and attribute their current issues to their chaotic background. 2. The orphaned child The orphan child archetype, often known as the abandoned child, represents a person with a tendency for independence throughout life. The orphan child, who frequently experiences feelings of loneliness, emotional abandonment, or an actual orphanage, chooses to find out things by themselves by avoiding gatherings and overcoming their phobias entirely on their own. This child archetype might be seen negatively as someone who pushes others off to their own harm, isolates themselves, and refuses to let dear ones close. To compensate for the emotional emptiness, they could try to pay by persistently looking for a second family. 3. The magical child The Magical Child understands that nothing is impossible. Highly talented and imaginative people The magical child archetype can see the sublime or divine in everything in addition to the energy network that connects everything. The magical child is frequently extraordinarily intelligent and brave, able to make changes in the world in a manner that appears to challenge usually. Frequently, the darkness is a Damaged Magical Child whose intrinsic confidence in the possibility of all things was scorned or mocked as fanciful visions, foolishness, or make-believe. So when adult Magical Child stops believing that their lifelong goals and aspirations can ever come true, depression may set in as their trust in wonders fade. 4. The nature child The archetype of the natural child has traditionally had a strong bond with the surrounding flora, animals, and surroundings. They may be able to speak with nature and are happiest when accompanied by other fluffy creatures. This archetype has a great affinity for wild spirit animals and frequently thinks about them. The nature child’s dark side violently harms those close to them. They might start treating individuals, plants, and animals poorly. Despite their close relationship, the dark animal child treats nature more as a punishment than a source of happiness. 5. The eternal child The Eternal Child enjoys being in their childhood and keeps their enthusiasm and sense of wonder as they age. They exude a sense of purity and carefreeness. They frequently appreciate simple delights, enjoy personal time, the ability to “relax,” and a break from the rigors of daily life. The darkness fights against maturing and accepting adult responsibilities. This archetype might defy social norms and lead a life away from the rules of the real world. The Eternal Child dark could be overly reliant and unwilling to accept or carry out duties. The Eternal Child may stall or become unanchored if they are trapped at an earlier stage of their lives. They wander, no longer children, unable to mature and perform well in the grown-up world they despise and avoid. 6. The needy child The needy child is an archetype similar to the wounded and orphaned child. The Needy Child was neglected as a youngster. Even though it’s not always evident what was or was not concealed, many spend their lives searching for it.

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Immature Parents
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Types And Signs Emotionally Immature Parents, Are Your Parents One Of Them?

Home Emotionally Immature Parents – What it’s just like to be growing up with emotionally immature parents. Growing up as adult children of emotionally immature parents may result in long-term feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, and abandonment. The four types of emotionally immature parents, including emotional, driven, rejecting, and passive parents, are discussed in this article. Furthermore, this article also explores the signs of emotionally immature parents, such as being self-centered, lacking integrity, making you feel emotionally lonely, and never apologizing for their mistakes. Table of Contents What are emotionally immature parents? Emotional immaturity means being unable to control your emotion, blaming others for your mistakes, and not accepting other people’s points of view. It can be due to insecure attachments during early life experiences, unresolved traumas, or a lack of in-depth self-reflection. By the phrase “emotionally immature parents,” we mean the parents who are not able and willing to support their children emotionally. Emotionally immature parents are controlling, unreliable, and demanding. An emotionally immature parent can lead to regressive behaviors, interpersonal conflicts & low self-esteem and can cause anxiety, depression, substance abuse, trauma, and other mental health conditions.   Types of emotionally immature parents  It is essential to understand the types of emotional immaturity in adult life. Clinical psychologist Dr. Lindsay Gibson explains the four distinct types of emotionally immature parents: emotional parents, driven parents, passive parents, and rejecting parents. Gibson highlights that despite the four types, they are all related in some way. A little emotional immaturity can be part of a good parent, but a full-blown emotionally immature nightmare will always result in toxic parenting. Remember that each type has different degrees of narcissism, ranging from mild to severe. 1. Emotional parents The emotionally immature parents frequently let their emotions rule them. They tend to depend on external factors, like other people or intoxicants, to calm and stabilize them when they experience minor upsets like the end of the world. The emotional parents may swing between being too involved in your life and abruptly withholding support. According to Gibson, these parents are liable to instability and unpredictability, and they are the most infantile among four types of emotionally immature parents. 2. Driven parents  The driven parent appears the most normal, showing strong concern for their children’s lives. These parents rarely take the time to empathize with and connect emotionally with their children truly, and they are pretty controlling and intrusive. On the other hand, the driven parent is frequently busy and obsessively goal-oriented. Driven parents often assume that their children would value the same things they do without question. They will ignore, reject, or punish you if you object. 3. Rejecting parents Rejecting parents are self-absorbed hurricanes who want to be left alone. They want everything to revolve around them. Usually, they’re not close to you unless you are somehow helpful to them in a particular situation. Rejecting parents show no closeness or real engagement with their children’s lives in meaningful ways and are typically controlling and isolating. 4. Passive parents Passive parents are usually considered “favorite and cool parents.” They don’t set many rules or restrictions for their kids. However, a lot of them are emotionally distant and incapable of handling stressful circumstances, which isn’t ideal while parenting children. The passive parent manages by downplaying issues and acquiescing. Signs of emotionally immature parents What are the signs of emotionally immature parents? Depending on the circumstances, the signs can manifest in many ways. Here, I have compiled a list of common tell-tale signs that your parents are emotionally immature. 1. They operate from ego  We all have egos. Our egos are the perception of our minds of ourselves and are prone to being defensive, absorbed in oneself, and conflict in relations. A parent who operates from ego may fall into one of two types: Doormat and Diva (dudes can be Divas too). The Divas are entitled, aggressive, grandiose, disrespectful of other people’s limits, and narcissistic. The Doormats are passive or passive-aggressive, repeatedly allow their boundaries to be crossed, and frequently fall into a victim narrative. These manifestations are low self-worth and a lack of healthy self-esteem that results from trauma or a lack of healthy attachments to parents or other primary caretakers during the early years. 2. They lack integrity and tend to blame others Parents that lack emotional maturity are unable to handle problems and have difficulty taking responsibility for their actions. They believe that they are never at fault and that other people’s shortcomings and mistakes are what cause problems. Parents who exhibit such behavior typically ignore the truth and adhere to imaginary narratives. They also frequently blame others. Lack of responsibility leads to a lack of integrity, impedes forgiveness, and undermines confidence. 3. Thye are controlling and extremely self-centered Emotionally immature parents are extremely self-centered in addition to being stubborn. To satisfy their insecurities and emotional voids, emotionally immature parents try to control their children. To dominate the narrative, they might manipulate situations. They always come first! To make matters more complicated, they often think highly of themselves and are entirely unaware of their shortcomings. 4. Being around them makes you feel emotionally lonely Being raised by emotionally immature parents increases emotional loneliness. Even though your parent might have been present physically, you might have felt abandoned emotionally. Even though you could sense a family connection to your parent but an emotionally secure parent-child relationship is very different from that. Emotionally immature parents enjoy giving their kids instructions but find emotional nurturing uncomfortable. As a result, while attempting to calm a distressed child, they may seem forced and awkward. 5. They hardly show feelings Emotionally immature parents find it difficult to express their emotions. They hide their deeper feelings. They are confused and unable to react appropriately because they have not yet reached the stage of development where they can deal with situations that make them angry, unhappy, or insecure. 6. They killjoys Emotionally immature parents may be terrible killjoys to their children and others.

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Death Of A Parent
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Changes After The Death Of A Parent

Home The Death Of A Parent – The death of a loved one feels unbelievable, particularly when losing a parent; it can be a devastating experience. When your mother or father dies, you feel a range of emotions, and your whole life changes in a heartbeat. I’ve lost my father in the covid, and I know it is a highly stressful event that can change you forever. So, in this article, I’ve discussed the five common experiences you may go through after losing a parent. Keep reading to know these five changes. Table of Contents Losing a parent is a traumatic experience When a parent dies, you feel a personal loss, and even as an adult, it is a traumatic experience. The grief of losing a parent is life-changing that may send shock waves to you. The loss of their guidance, love, and support can leave a huge void in your world that no one else can fill. And if you had a complicated relationship with your parent, their death can leave you on a roller coaster of conflicting emotions. Also, studies revealed that bereaved children have more risk of mental illness and psychological problems after this significant loss. 5 changes after the death of a parent Parental death is highly painful that affects you physically and psychologically. Here are the five changes you feel in yourself after losing a parent. 1. You undergo a range of contradictory feelings You will likely go through a range of contradictory feelings that you feel different from one moment to another. You might experience shock, anger, emotional numbness, guilt (for not contacting or caring for them), confusion, despair, or relief that they’re no longer in pain. Moreover, the grief of parental loss will change your way of reacting to problems in life. Also, you’re likely to feel physical pain and mental illness, including depression, anxiety, or thoughts of suicide. 2. You started to accept their flaws In childhood and young age, you expect your parent to be perfect in every situation and trust them completely. But as you mature, you realize they are just like you and still trying their best to provide you every comfort in this complicated world. Therefore, you start accepting their flaws & mistakes and forgive them after their death, no matter the nature of your relationship with your parent. 3. Relationship with your siblings or other family member changes The death of a parent affects your relationship with your siblings and other family members. Sometimes, the death of a loved one brings the family together and heals the broken relationships. Whereas it often creates tension and conflicts between siblings. It’s not good to wake up old arguments and undervalue the bond with your other loved ones. You need to support each other and look after each other in this difficult time. Furthermore, you may likely meet new or distant family members and have new relationships after the death of a parent. 4. Special occasions will never feel the way they used to be After losing a parent, it is normal that you feel hollow and lonely without them at special events. We know that occasions are with loved ones, whether they’re parents, siblings, or close friends. But parents are the ones who teach us how to celebrate events and life achievements, thus, you may no longer be excited about the holidays and the activities you used to do with your parent. Instead, you will likely develop new interests. 5. Learning to live with the sadness As time passes, you learn to live with the grief and look at the world from a different perspective. You realize you’ll miss your parent forever, and now you will have to live with their memories. As you learn to live with the sadness and manage the grief, you eventually grow and become a stronger person. For some people, it may be a new freedom Losing a parent might be heart breaking, but some people see it as a freedom. Jeanne Safer, a psychotherapist based in NYC, says “Research shows that a majority of bereaved adults report significant improvements in their lives after they have grieved for their parents.” Some people feel themselves in a state of being free after the death of a parent. They feel free to do whatever they want, marry someone they want, and go wherever they want to go. Some people leave religion, engage in new hobbies & activities, and they feel freer that they will not be answerable to their parents and bound to their orders. However, marrying someone you love and living life according to your choice and goals is nothing to be ashamed of. It depends on the parent and the nature of their relationship with the child. Also Read: Dealing With Parents’ Divorce In Your 20s Bottom line If you’re struggling with the grief of the death of your parent and need extra support, consider reaching out to a grief coach, therapist or mental health professional. It’s important to talk to one to recover from this loss, and there is no shame in it. If you’re looking for online therapy, feel free to reach out to me by scheduling a free discovery session with me. As a life coach and expert in grief support, I’d help you to process through this painful chapter of your life and manage your grief. Talk About Your Grief Starting Today With A FREE Discovery Call FREE DISCOVERY CALL

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Rules To Live By
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Rules To Live By For A Joyful Life

Home Rules To Live By – Is your daily life chaotic and stressful? Do you struggle to find a quiet moment during the day to unwind and kick your feet up? Are you pressed for time, under pressure, and prepared to give up? Why is it the case? Who is in charge of it? Why did you make it so challenging? The answer is simple find happiness in little things. The thought-provoking part is putting it into practice, but making it easier for you, here are some guidelines to follow: Table of Contents 13 rules to live by Many of you postpone your joy for some fictitious future day. The truth is that you can make your life happy right now. Here are Some recommendations for leading a better, more fulfilling life. 1. Express your value  and beliefs through actions  Every one of us possesses a framework of principles. They might be buried deep within you, or they could be relatively close to the outside world. You must connect with these fundamental principles and live following them wherever they may be. Not even knowing what they are will suffice. Talking and thinking are not worth it; your actions matter the most. Your behaviors need to reflect your ideals and beliefs. Show that something is essential to you by living your life accordingly. So, if they’re being pushed, support them. Don’t let someone convince you to go against your moral principles. 2. Practice gratitude even for the smallest things  Write a journal of everything that brings you happiness, excitement, and gratitude whenever you feel down. “In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.” – Harvard Medical School A journal, favorite books, souvenirs, a great wife, devoted children, loving friendships, wellness, a lovely family, a profession that covers the expenses, a surprise dinner served by a loving husband, and a surprise 20 dollars in your trousers pocket. Write them down. Every bit counts. Think about what has taken place to the sentiments of bleakness and doom after you’ve completed this. Recalling all the lovely things you have in your life makes it hard to not feel uplifted. Always clear the way for more enjoyment while being appreciative. 3. Stop comparing yourself to others people  Considering people’s obsession with perfectionism in contemporary civilization, it might be difficult to resist comparing yourselves to others. You may raise the standards even higher if you begin to evaluate your successes and accomplishments. It is normal to judge yourself against others and perhaps feel jealous of them. However, you misdirect your attention when you grow fixated on your flaws instead of your strengths. Constantly comparing yourself to others might undermine your self-worth and cause you to feel self-conscious. Become conscious of how you see yourself and avoid the impulse to compare yourself to others. 4. Learn to say “no.” Many of us could feel compelled to answer “Yes” if anybody requests us to do a favor or make a promise. Always keep in mind that not everything you can do is necessary. Determine the most effective methods to refuse. Take into consideration factors like your own limits and the current circumstance. Answering “No” should always be done in a way that clearly communicates your limits. Practice not feeling guilty after you say “No.” Recognize that you always have the option to decline an offer or a favor. It’s acceptable to put your needs and the well-being of your mind first. 5. Surround yourself with positive people  You might have heard that your company defines you. If you surround yourself with positive people, you will ultimately start to think positively. As positivity and happiness are contagious, you should find supportive and uplifting people. 6. Forgive at your own pace; The past is in the past A grudge must be resolved if it prevents you from enjoying life. Don’t let the past dwell on your guilt or regret. Put an end to the old tales and decide to live joyously in the present than exist in reparation. Deal with it if someone has hurt you or if you have hurt someone else. Stop letting things linger. Make it a habit to live without hurt or resentment. You’ll experience power, clarity, and strength. 7. Cultivate positive mindset Almost every decision you make is influenced by your thinking. It controls your emotions and how you react to many sources of tension in your daily lives. Having a positive outlook can improve your feelings and overall health. A person with a positive outlook concentrates on the positive aspects of a situation. However, they approach problems hoping that things will turn out good, rather than ignoring or making light of their own or other people’s troubles. 8. See the light in people One could be frustrated, enraged, or hurt by others. Simply put, this is a reality of existence. Even when individuals mean good, this still occurs. The real kicker is that you can ignore these outside influences and focus on the compassion and fate you and others carry. How are you able to accomplish that? Remember that we are all “souls” living in actual bodies. Even during the most challenging periods in life, people continue to strive to achieve the best they can. This does not imply that accepting and forgiving others is simple, particularly when they have mistreated us. It’s still worth a shot, though. The key is to recognize the “light” within others. This entails identifying people’s abilities and traits, even if they aren’t immediately visible. Practicing that can assist in bringing out the best in people. 9. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You matter You probably haven’t been good to yourself in a while. Take note of your inner voice. People can sometimes be highly harsh, judgmental, and unkind when it comes to themselves. Giving yourself a little compassion is vital, mainly when

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How To Argue Effectively? 9 Steps To Do It

Home How To Argue Effectively? -Arguments don’t need to be unpleasant. However, if you’re not mindful, they can quickly become that. Fortunately, you can use several strategies and tactics to convey your argument without starting a violent altercation. Productive reasoning is a fantastic technique to learn since it can be applied to a wide range of circumstances and give you the self-assurance to speak up for the things you believe in and yourself. Choose your arguments wisely; specific issues aren’t worth debating. Table of Contents Is arguing always a bad thing in a relationship? You might not need to be concerned if you just argue sometimes and if your disagreements don’t go out of hand. However, if you and your partner have numerous unpleasant arguments over an extended period, your relationship may genuinely begin to fail. Many psychologists believe arguments between partners are unavoidable and don’t always indicate a problem. However, if you find yourself debating the same issues repeatedly, it may undermine your relationship. This is particularly the case if you are unwilling to make compromises or consider the perspectives of others if you frequently lose your cool and say stuff you afterward regret in the future. If this characterizes you and your mate, you can be caught in a cycle of conflict. Breaking this pattern of bad behavior is crucial since it will likely lead to a pile of bitterness that makes it difficult to concentrate on other things. Below is how to argue effectively! How to argue effectively? There are a few important ideas to consider when you argue, such as:   1. Think carefully. Is it really worth the argument?  Arguments can be a healthy way to let off steam, but that doesn’t mean you should start one or yell at your spouse every minute you’re irritated with them. A fight should be avoided if at all possible. Experts hold the opinion that not all subjects are amenable to argument. Identify the topics that are “important enough” to merit a debate. The secret to fair arguments is to avoid litigating and creating a central issue of every minor matter. For example, you should not fight over leaving the wet towel on the bed. 2. Prepare yourself Think sensibly about what you will argue about and what you seek before you begin to discuss the issue. You should also reconsider if your point of view makes any sense. What do you actually hope to gain from this discussion? Do you simply want the other individual to comprehend your perspective? Or are you looking for a specific outcome? If the goal is to get a productive benefit, you should consider whether your goal is feasible and attainable. A verbal conflict could harm an essential relationship if it is not achievable or practical. 3. Do not lash out with your anger; Keep calm It may be challenging to conduct a reasoned debate if you are not composed since your feelings may have taken control of you. So better not to be overridden by anger. Moreover, research says that the amygdala, a part of the brain that is active during the conflict, raises levels of stress chemicals and leads people to overreact instead of staying logical. This can make it difficult to speak effectively. Therefore, if possible, try to maintain your attention on what has occurred. So that your dialogue will not be hampered by feelings of resentment or anger. Count to 10, take a big breath or give yourself a cheer boost. Take the necessary steps to control your emotions, remain composed, and defend your position. 4.  Speak clearly and use the “i” statements  Avoid entirely blaming the other person because this would provoke their anger instead of encouraging cooperation in solving the problem. Avoid using pronouns like “you” and “me” while arguing. Substitute pronouns such as “we” in their place. Instead of dividing you, this encourages your opponent to view the both of you as a single entity with distinct objectives. Starting sentences with “You” throws the focus squarely on your partner’s actions, but beginning sentences with “I” removes that focus and emphasizes how you think about it. 5. What happened in the past, stay in the past Allowing an argument to deviate off course is the quickest method of making it completely meaningless. When arguing, stay on the subject, and if the other person wanders off, bring them back. Try not to get the topics from the past. Avoid talking about anything that happened months or weeks ago or isn’t relevant to the topic. If you start pointing out all the things your partner has wronged, they can become defensive, and you won’t be ready to resolve the issue. It is preferable to resolve a single conflict than to struggle with Multiple matters at once. Talk about each topic in depth, saying whatever you’d like to say about it. Move on to the next issue once it has been resolved or you have come to a deadlock. The other person can make an effort to change the topic in an attempt to hide a misstep. When someone is shown to be mistaken, many individuals prefer to ignore their error rather than admit it. You can withdraw or end the conversation if the other party doesn’t admit fault. 6. Give your partner time to speak too and listen to them Respect the viewpoints of your partner. Arguments must be two-sided; if you don’t listen to the other party, they’ll ignore you and back the blow. While criticizing a partner’s viewpoint is acceptable, failing to listen to them makes a discussion useless. Even when you disagree with them, you should always treat them with consideration. Keep in mind that other people are human, so  You should treat them as you wish to be regarded. Your partner disagrees with you doesn’t mean you should automatically reject their views. Listening to them and addressing them leads to a healthy argument. 7. Don’t invalidate their feelings When you disagree with someone, be sure you comprehend what

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Practicing Gratitude: 10 Ways to Be Grateful in Hard Times

Home How to Be Grateful in Hard Times – By practicing gratitude, people can learn to appreciate what they already have in their hands. Instead of constantly seeking out more things in the hopes that they will improve their lives or believing that they won’t be content until all of their monetary and bodily needs have been addressed. Refocusing on what they have rather than what they need is aided by gratitude. And even though it might seem fabricated initially, this state of mind gets stronger with practice and repetition. Here we will discuss how to practice gratitude! Table of Contents The power of gratitude Do you know that research says that practicing gratitude merely for 5 minutes every day will make you 25% more content and happier? While finding gratitude in the best time of life is natural, it is worth doing in tough times of your life. The majority of the investigation on gratitude has been conducted by Drs. Robert A. Emmons and Michael E. McCullough, two psychiatrists. In one study, all subjects were required to write a couple lines every week with a concentration on specific topics. One group commented about the week’s events for which they were grateful. The second group wrote about annoyances they encountered daily or other issues, while the third group discussed life-changing experiences (without stating them being positive or negative. Individuals who penned about gratitude were more upbeat and felt happier about their lives following 10 weeks. Interestingly, compared to those who concentrated on irritation causes, respondents also exercised better and saw doctors less frequently. Obviously, research like this cannot establish cause and consequence. However, the majority of studies on this subject are in favor of a link between happiness and gratitude. Finding gratitude: being grateful in both good and bad times When you feel love, earn a sizable paycheck, a unique present, or just get a new car, it is easy to be grateful. But can you also be thankful if your boss fires you or you ruin your car in an accident? The best days can be brightened by gratitude, the only emotion that can get you through difficult times. It is neither unimportant nor its fashion. It is a way to cope that helps. Ups and downs are a part of life; if you don’t relish your bad days with gratitude, it will only worsen your condition. Appreciative people feel more joy, pleasure, and optimism in their existence. This makes them more generous, compassionate and forgiving towards others.  How to be grateful in hard times Gratitude is associated with better physical health. When your body is healthy, you will get the power and endurance to manage the added stress, and your overall well-being will also increase. Therefore, it’s more important than ever to give importance to your physical health if you’re currently experiencing stress. Undoubtedly, maintaining a healthy diet and exercising is vital, but so is adopting a grateful mindset. Additionally, gratitude has been demonstrated to have a long-lasting good impact on people who battle mental health conditions, including despair and anxiety. Even a basic gratitude writing routine can improve your moods in the short term and increase your capacity for thankfulness over time. So, if you’re struggling to handle life’s craziness, practicing gratitude might be one of the best all-natural cures you can find. And the following behaviors will assist you in doing just that. 1. Acceptance; some things just don’t go your way Accepting and then welcoming any roadblocks to finding thankfulness is necessary for understanding how to be grateful under challenging circumstances. People need time to grieve when the unexpected occurs in life, and it’s normal to be upset for a while. But continuing to suffer rather than figuring out how to handle it will not be helpful. No matter how many self-help books you read, relying on God’s word is the only method to deal with life’s challenges. Lean on the personalities in the Bible who had to face their trials. In the Bible, several accounts of people who faced difficulties yet still turned to God. It will remind you how to find gratitude in your most challenging times. 2. Look back at what you’ve done and be proud that you made it this far Your ongoing situation might be disturbing, but your past must be unique. You can channel the energy from the past to cope with difficult times. Was your boss happy with you when you helped him win a project? Or do you make your parents proud? It is okay if you have rough times at your job or you have any other issues. You can use your previous success to move forward in your tough times and rise again like a phoenix from ashes. 3. Forgive and learn to let things go You should do your most challenge to refrain from complaining if you genuinely want to show thanks. Even while it can feel fantastic to let everything out occasionally, you should make it a practice to focus more on the good aspects of your life than the bad. You’ll be more likely to express thankfulness if you focus on being happy rather than finding things to complain about. You won’t be able to notice everything if you constantly complain. Learn to forgive and forget bad things. Instead, focus on the good, and life will be good. 4. Begin with the most minor things around you You could overlook several beautiful things in life since they aren’t always evident or significant. Try to recall all the little things you were grateful for during the day. There will probably be several little things that together make a great day. To help you practice being grateful, try to be conscious of all the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small. 5. Start your own gratitude journal Keep a gratitude journal to record all the reasons you’re grateful every week if you wish to make being appreciative a lifestyle. Simply choose a day of the week to complete it—perhaps

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