5 Habits That Will Change Your Life for the Better

Making small changes in your daily habits can lead to big improvements in your life. Here are five simple habits...
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5 Habits That Will Change Your Life For The Better

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Rules To Live By
Life
Rules To Live By For A Joyful Life

Home Rules To Live By – Is your daily life chaotic and stressful? Do you struggle to find a quiet moment during the day to unwind and kick your feet up? Are you pressed for time, under pressure, and prepared to give up? Why is it the case? Who is in charge of it? Why did you make it so challenging? The answer is simple find happiness in little things. The thought-provoking part is putting it into practice, but making it easier for you, here are some guidelines to follow: Table of Contents 13 rules to live by Many of you postpone your joy for some fictitious future day. The truth is that you can make your life happy right now. Here are Some recommendations for leading a better, more fulfilling life. 1. Express your value  and beliefs through actions  Every one of us possesses a framework of principles. They might be buried deep within you, or they could be relatively close to the outside world. You must connect with these fundamental principles and live following them wherever they may be. Not even knowing what they are will suffice. Talking and thinking are not worth it; your actions matter the most. Your behaviors need to reflect your ideals and beliefs. Show that something is essential to you by living your life accordingly. So, if they’re being pushed, support them. Don’t let someone convince you to go against your moral principles. 2. Practice gratitude even for the smallest things  Write a journal of everything that brings you happiness, excitement, and gratitude whenever you feel down. “In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.” – Harvard Medical School A journal, favorite books, souvenirs, a great wife, devoted children, loving friendships, wellness, a lovely family, a profession that covers the expenses, a surprise dinner served by a loving husband, and a surprise 20 dollars in your trousers pocket. Write them down. Every bit counts. Think about what has taken place to the sentiments of bleakness and doom after you’ve completed this. Recalling all the lovely things you have in your life makes it hard to not feel uplifted. Always clear the way for more enjoyment while being appreciative. 3. Stop comparing yourself to others people  Considering people’s obsession with perfectionism in contemporary civilization, it might be difficult to resist comparing yourselves to others. You may raise the standards even higher if you begin to evaluate your successes and accomplishments. It is normal to judge yourself against others and perhaps feel jealous of them. However, you misdirect your attention when you grow fixated on your flaws instead of your strengths. Constantly comparing yourself to others might undermine your self-worth and cause you to feel self-conscious. Become conscious of how you see yourself and avoid the impulse to compare yourself to others. 4. Learn to say “no.” Many of us could feel compelled to answer “Yes” if anybody requests us to do a favor or make a promise. Always keep in mind that not everything you can do is necessary. Determine the most effective methods to refuse. Take into consideration factors like your own limits and the current circumstance. Answering “No” should always be done in a way that clearly communicates your limits. Practice not feeling guilty after you say “No.” Recognize that you always have the option to decline an offer or a favor. It’s acceptable to put your needs and the well-being of your mind first. 5. Surround yourself with positive people  You might have heard that your company defines you. If you surround yourself with positive people, you will ultimately start to think positively. As positivity and happiness are contagious, you should find supportive and uplifting people. 6. Forgive at your own pace; The past is in the past A grudge must be resolved if it prevents you from enjoying life. Don’t let the past dwell on your guilt or regret. Put an end to the old tales and decide to live joyously in the present than exist in reparation. Deal with it if someone has hurt you or if you have hurt someone else. Stop letting things linger. Make it a habit to live without hurt or resentment. You’ll experience power, clarity, and strength. 7. Cultivate positive mindset Almost every decision you make is influenced by your thinking. It controls your emotions and how you react to many sources of tension in your daily lives. Having a positive outlook can improve your feelings and overall health. A person with a positive outlook concentrates on the positive aspects of a situation. However, they approach problems hoping that things will turn out good, rather than ignoring or making light of their own or other people’s troubles. 8. See the light in people One could be frustrated, enraged, or hurt by others. Simply put, this is a reality of existence. Even when individuals mean good, this still occurs. The real kicker is that you can ignore these outside influences and focus on the compassion and fate you and others carry. How are you able to accomplish that? Remember that we are all “souls” living in actual bodies. Even during the most challenging periods in life, people continue to strive to achieve the best they can. This does not imply that accepting and forgiving others is simple, particularly when they have mistreated us. It’s still worth a shot, though. The key is to recognize the “light” within others. This entails identifying people’s abilities and traits, even if they aren’t immediately visible. Practicing that can assist in bringing out the best in people. 9. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You matter You probably haven’t been good to yourself in a while. Take note of your inner voice. People can sometimes be highly harsh, judgmental, and unkind when it comes to themselves. Giving yourself a little compassion is vital, mainly when

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Argue
Life
How To Argue Effectively? 9 Steps To Do It

Home How To Argue Effectively? -Arguments don’t need to be unpleasant. However, if you’re not mindful, they can quickly become that. Fortunately, you can use several strategies and tactics to convey your argument without starting a violent altercation. Productive reasoning is a fantastic technique to learn since it can be applied to a wide range of circumstances and give you the self-assurance to speak up for the things you believe in and yourself. Choose your arguments wisely; specific issues aren’t worth debating. Table of Contents Is arguing always a bad thing in a relationship? You might not need to be concerned if you just argue sometimes and if your disagreements don’t go out of hand. However, if you and your partner have numerous unpleasant arguments over an extended period, your relationship may genuinely begin to fail. Many psychologists believe arguments between partners are unavoidable and don’t always indicate a problem. However, if you find yourself debating the same issues repeatedly, it may undermine your relationship. This is particularly the case if you are unwilling to make compromises or consider the perspectives of others if you frequently lose your cool and say stuff you afterward regret in the future. If this characterizes you and your mate, you can be caught in a cycle of conflict. Breaking this pattern of bad behavior is crucial since it will likely lead to a pile of bitterness that makes it difficult to concentrate on other things. Below is how to argue effectively! How to argue effectively? There are a few important ideas to consider when you argue, such as:   1. Think carefully. Is it really worth the argument?  Arguments can be a healthy way to let off steam, but that doesn’t mean you should start one or yell at your spouse every minute you’re irritated with them. A fight should be avoided if at all possible. Experts hold the opinion that not all subjects are amenable to argument. Identify the topics that are “important enough” to merit a debate. The secret to fair arguments is to avoid litigating and creating a central issue of every minor matter. For example, you should not fight over leaving the wet towel on the bed. 2. Prepare yourself Think sensibly about what you will argue about and what you seek before you begin to discuss the issue. You should also reconsider if your point of view makes any sense. What do you actually hope to gain from this discussion? Do you simply want the other individual to comprehend your perspective? Or are you looking for a specific outcome? If the goal is to get a productive benefit, you should consider whether your goal is feasible and attainable. A verbal conflict could harm an essential relationship if it is not achievable or practical. 3. Do not lash out with your anger; Keep calm It may be challenging to conduct a reasoned debate if you are not composed since your feelings may have taken control of you. So better not to be overridden by anger. Moreover, research says that the amygdala, a part of the brain that is active during the conflict, raises levels of stress chemicals and leads people to overreact instead of staying logical. This can make it difficult to speak effectively. Therefore, if possible, try to maintain your attention on what has occurred. So that your dialogue will not be hampered by feelings of resentment or anger. Count to 10, take a big breath or give yourself a cheer boost. Take the necessary steps to control your emotions, remain composed, and defend your position. 4.  Speak clearly and use the “i” statements  Avoid entirely blaming the other person because this would provoke their anger instead of encouraging cooperation in solving the problem. Avoid using pronouns like “you” and “me” while arguing. Substitute pronouns such as “we” in their place. Instead of dividing you, this encourages your opponent to view the both of you as a single entity with distinct objectives. Starting sentences with “You” throws the focus squarely on your partner’s actions, but beginning sentences with “I” removes that focus and emphasizes how you think about it. 5. What happened in the past, stay in the past Allowing an argument to deviate off course is the quickest method of making it completely meaningless. When arguing, stay on the subject, and if the other person wanders off, bring them back. Try not to get the topics from the past. Avoid talking about anything that happened months or weeks ago or isn’t relevant to the topic. If you start pointing out all the things your partner has wronged, they can become defensive, and you won’t be ready to resolve the issue. It is preferable to resolve a single conflict than to struggle with Multiple matters at once. Talk about each topic in depth, saying whatever you’d like to say about it. Move on to the next issue once it has been resolved or you have come to a deadlock. The other person can make an effort to change the topic in an attempt to hide a misstep. When someone is shown to be mistaken, many individuals prefer to ignore their error rather than admit it. You can withdraw or end the conversation if the other party doesn’t admit fault. 6. Give your partner time to speak too and listen to them Respect the viewpoints of your partner. Arguments must be two-sided; if you don’t listen to the other party, they’ll ignore you and back the blow. While criticizing a partner’s viewpoint is acceptable, failing to listen to them makes a discussion useless. Even when you disagree with them, you should always treat them with consideration. Keep in mind that other people are human, so  You should treat them as you wish to be regarded. Your partner disagrees with you doesn’t mean you should automatically reject their views. Listening to them and addressing them leads to a healthy argument. 7. Don’t invalidate their feelings When you disagree with someone, be sure you comprehend what

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Gratitude
Life
Practicing Gratitude: 10 Ways to Be Grateful in Hard Times

Home How to Be Grateful in Hard Times – By practicing gratitude, people can learn to appreciate what they already have in their hands. Instead of constantly seeking out more things in the hopes that they will improve their lives or believing that they won’t be content until all of their monetary and bodily needs have been addressed. Refocusing on what they have rather than what they need is aided by gratitude. And even though it might seem fabricated initially, this state of mind gets stronger with practice and repetition. Here we will discuss how to practice gratitude! Table of Contents The power of gratitude Do you know that research says that practicing gratitude merely for 5 minutes every day will make you 25% more content and happier? While finding gratitude in the best time of life is natural, it is worth doing in tough times of your life. The majority of the investigation on gratitude has been conducted by Drs. Robert A. Emmons and Michael E. McCullough, two psychiatrists. In one study, all subjects were required to write a couple lines every week with a concentration on specific topics. One group commented about the week’s events for which they were grateful. The second group wrote about annoyances they encountered daily or other issues, while the third group discussed life-changing experiences (without stating them being positive or negative. Individuals who penned about gratitude were more upbeat and felt happier about their lives following 10 weeks. Interestingly, compared to those who concentrated on irritation causes, respondents also exercised better and saw doctors less frequently. Obviously, research like this cannot establish cause and consequence. However, the majority of studies on this subject are in favor of a link between happiness and gratitude. Finding gratitude: being grateful in both good and bad times When you feel love, earn a sizable paycheck, a unique present, or just get a new car, it is easy to be grateful. But can you also be thankful if your boss fires you or you ruin your car in an accident? The best days can be brightened by gratitude, the only emotion that can get you through difficult times. It is neither unimportant nor its fashion. It is a way to cope that helps. Ups and downs are a part of life; if you don’t relish your bad days with gratitude, it will only worsen your condition. Appreciative people feel more joy, pleasure, and optimism in their existence. This makes them more generous, compassionate and forgiving towards others.  How to be grateful in hard times Gratitude is associated with better physical health. When your body is healthy, you will get the power and endurance to manage the added stress, and your overall well-being will also increase. Therefore, it’s more important than ever to give importance to your physical health if you’re currently experiencing stress. Undoubtedly, maintaining a healthy diet and exercising is vital, but so is adopting a grateful mindset. Additionally, gratitude has been demonstrated to have a long-lasting good impact on people who battle mental health conditions, including despair and anxiety. Even a basic gratitude writing routine can improve your moods in the short term and increase your capacity for thankfulness over time. So, if you’re struggling to handle life’s craziness, practicing gratitude might be one of the best all-natural cures you can find. And the following behaviors will assist you in doing just that. 1. Acceptance; some things just don’t go your way Accepting and then welcoming any roadblocks to finding thankfulness is necessary for understanding how to be grateful under challenging circumstances. People need time to grieve when the unexpected occurs in life, and it’s normal to be upset for a while. But continuing to suffer rather than figuring out how to handle it will not be helpful. No matter how many self-help books you read, relying on God’s word is the only method to deal with life’s challenges. Lean on the personalities in the Bible who had to face their trials. In the Bible, several accounts of people who faced difficulties yet still turned to God. It will remind you how to find gratitude in your most challenging times. 2. Look back at what you’ve done and be proud that you made it this far Your ongoing situation might be disturbing, but your past must be unique. You can channel the energy from the past to cope with difficult times. Was your boss happy with you when you helped him win a project? Or do you make your parents proud? It is okay if you have rough times at your job or you have any other issues. You can use your previous success to move forward in your tough times and rise again like a phoenix from ashes. 3. Forgive and learn to let things go You should do your most challenge to refrain from complaining if you genuinely want to show thanks. Even while it can feel fantastic to let everything out occasionally, you should make it a practice to focus more on the good aspects of your life than the bad. You’ll be more likely to express thankfulness if you focus on being happy rather than finding things to complain about. You won’t be able to notice everything if you constantly complain. Learn to forgive and forget bad things. Instead, focus on the good, and life will be good. 4. Begin with the most minor things around you You could overlook several beautiful things in life since they aren’t always evident or significant. Try to recall all the little things you were grateful for during the day. There will probably be several little things that together make a great day. To help you practice being grateful, try to be conscious of all the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small. 5. Start your own gratitude journal Keep a gratitude journal to record all the reasons you’re grateful every week if you wish to make being appreciative a lifestyle. Simply choose a day of the week to complete it—perhaps

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Death Of A Sibling
Grief and Loss
The Death of A Sibling: 5 Things To Help You Get Through It

Home The Death of A Sibling – Coping with grief as a result of the death of a sibling is one of the hardest challenges many of us have to endure. Our grief can be intense when a sibling dies, and the world changes quickly for us. The death of a brother or sister is a heart-wrenching and tragic loss, no matter what your age is, because the relationship with a sibling is exceptional. In this article, I’ll discuss why the death of a sibling is an emotional hardest experience, the effects of the loss of a sibling, and how you can cope with the grief of losing a brother or sister. Table of Contents Siblings are special Siblings are special: they share countless moments of laughter, lifelong secrets, and plenty of happy & sad memories. Your relationship with your sibling is one of the most special relationships you have. You fight with them, play with them, and even compete with them. Moreover, the bonding between sisters is unmatchable as you’ve shared and experienced a lot of important things together that you’ve not done with any close friend or your spouse and children. Therefore, they play a special role in our families and our hearts. How the death of a sibling might affect your life Losing a sibling can be a shock. It affects your whole life and your entire family dynamic. When a brother or sister dies, you may experience different kinds of emotions; you feel guilt, anger and abandonment, anxiety, and loneliness. Learning how to live without your brother or sister and with this sense of loss takes time. So, this loss can have multiple effects. A study from 2018 suggests that surviving siblings have to manage the grief of their parents along with their own grief. The grief and changes after the death can lead to increased stress, affecting your mental and physical health. Things to do when you are coping with losing a sister or brother The death of a sibling can be an overwhelming experience. But life goes on after the loss of some loved one, and you’ve to live with that loss. So if you’re coping with the grief of losing a brother or sister, there are some strategies to find a way through your loss. Here I’ve mentioned five things to do after the death of a sibling. 1.  Talk your feelings out and share the pain with your family members Talking your feelings out releases difficult emotions and helps you navigate through your grief. Share your pain with your loved ones: your family members and close friends. Talking about your grief helps you work through your pain. 2.  Find other ways to say goodbye When a sibling dies, it can be a traumatic experience that can leave you confused and shaken. You did not have a chance to say goodbye to them before death: it is more painful. But you can say goodbye to them in other ways like by writing a letter to them. Write a letter and pen down all the things you want to tell them before their death and bury the letter with them, or you can keep it. 3.  Take care of your mental and physical health Grieving the loss of a sibling can be a winding process, so taking care of your mental and physical health is imperative. Spend time with your loved ones, do things that make you happy, hang out with friends, forgive yourself, take naps, eat nutritious food, and exercise. 4.  Keep a memento to remember them Honor your sibling by finding a way to remember them. Find ways to memorialize your sibling to maintain a connection with them. You can keep their pictures, videos, the jewelry they carry, an old shirt with their scent on it, or anything. Paying tribute to your brother or sister is a therapeutic way to keep their memory alive and express grief. 5.  Meet a therapist or coach if needed Lastly, if you feel that nothing is helping out and the loss is impacting your life, then seek professional help. Meet a therapist or coach who specializes in grief. They’ll help you sort through your feelings and navigate you through the healing process. Also Read: How Long Does Mourning Last? Wrapping up The death of a sibling is a tremendous loss, and it feels like you have lost a part of your life. As a surviving sibling, you may experience unimaginable pain and ambivalent feelings. It’s OK to feel pain and emotions to heal. The tips mentioned above will help you throughout the grieving process. Besides, support groups, mental health professionals, and coaches are great ways to find support and move forward in your life. If you’re a surviving sibling or you know anyone who lost a sibling, and they’re struggling to deal with it, you can reach out to me online by scheduling a free call with me. As a mental health professional and life coach, I’d love to help you in this grieving process to move towards healing and hope so you can say goodbye to your beloved sibling. Process Your Loss Starting Today With A FREE Discovery Call FREE DISCOVERY CALL

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How To Be Happy Again After A Grief
Grief and Loss
How To Be Happy Again, 10 Steps To Do It

Home To Be Happy Again – You can take steps to feel happy, regardless of whether you’re having a terrible day or struggling with recurrent grief or sadness. This article offers suggestions for boosting happiness, starting with short cheer-ups and moving on to recommendations for dealing with persistent sadness. Keep telling yourself that you can be happy again no matter your circumstances. Additionally, keep in mind that someone, somewhere, cares about you. Table of Contents It ain’t east to be happy again after grieving It is difficult to stay in the “heaviness” of sadness without transitioning to any “lightness.” Indeed, life will not be the same when a loved one passes away, or you lose a job. Certainly, you can recover and learn to live again if you want to. In fact, it’s typically unavoidable. You can get yourself up again and live with a new spirit. Things you need to try to wash away the sadness When something terrible occurs in your life, it could appear as though the world is ending. But you should genuinely embrace your feelings rather than repressing or discarding them—either by diverting yourself or maintaining a decent façade. Feeling all kinds of emotions is vital because they teach you crucial things about yourself and your life. Moreover, instead of criticizing yourself for feeling depressed, try to see this as a chance to develop, learn, and find natural healing. Following are some of the ways to find happiness again! 1. It all starts with you, find a new purpose Keeping your attention on the most valuable elements to you, like your family members, your religion, your job, and many other parts of your life, maintaining a purposeful aim might help you if you’re asking how to be happy. It’s crucial to maintain motivation when times are hard so that you can create and reach both short- and long-term goals. Regardless of how much fame or reputation one may have, many wealthy individuals are unhappy for one primary reason: Our sadness is eventually caused by a sense of meaninglessness. 2. Understand that life won’t always go smoothly   We all know that life is an emotional roller coaster. There will be good days, and there will be bad days as well. If you understand that everything happens for a reason, there will not always be a bed of roses for you. Sometimes you have to walk over thorns as well. Moreover, you should allow the grief process to complete itself. Do not rush. You can’t expect to be completely joyful again until the depth of your sadness lessens. Work through your pain, severe suffering, deep sorrow, ferocious rage, and all other feelings and emotions.  3. Identify what triggers your happiness and sadness   It’s sometimes necessary to identify the sources of your sadness to determine what brings you a smile. Whatever is giving you tension, discomfort, anxiety, or overall misery in your life may be a relation, a profession, a living condition, or any other circumstance. Making decisions about how to go to live a happy life requires understanding what has changed or is causing your discomfort. Decide where to focus your attention and time to attain your desired calm life. Moreover, focus on what aspects of your life you might want to try eliminating or changing. You can develop a simple comparison checklist to find your happiness and sadness triggers.  4. Practice gratitude Gratitude can significantly improve your attitude towards life. Two-part research, for instance, discovered that cultivating thankfulness can significantly affect emotions of optimism and pleasure. Practice saying thank you for one effort at the start of the day. You can carry out this task while washing your hair or simply sitting for your coffee. While going about your day, consider looking for pleasant things in your life. They might be actual occurrences like finding out someone loves you or getting a well-deserved job. They can even be insignificant acts, such as a coworker handing you a beverage of choice or a complete stranger waving to you. You might even improve your perception of all the good things around you with some work. 5. Get out of home, enjoy more sunlight and meet new people According to one research, staying half an hour or more weekly in greenery can help reduce blood pressure and the risk of getting depressed.  Your “green place” can be wherever you can embrace and appreciate nature and breezes, like a playground in your community, garden, or rooftop terrace. Moreover, sunlight can significantly increase your happiness since low vitamin D can lead to depression. And chances are when you are out in parks and gardens, you will meet new people who uplift your spirit. 6. Keep yourself busy by doing positive things you enjoys Unfortunate life events like a loss of a job or a divorce can also be an excellent chance to try new things. Find something you’ve wanted to do for a while but have been putting off doing, and just do it! As long as the change is one you choose and promotes your pleasure, it might be modest or significant. For instance, you might begin preparing for a 5k before moving on to a half marathon and ultimately a full marathon. You will feel better off and more confident if you work out and pursue a goal. If you’ve lost your job, it might be time to look into starting a new, exciting profession. 7. Start journaling A journal is a valuable tool for management, organizing your thoughts, and analyzing your emotions. You need not be a literary genius or prolific writer to gain from this. Simple steps like writing down a few thoughts at night can help. If writing down specific things causes you anxiety, you may always shred it once you’re done. The process is what matters. 8. Try to exercise and meditate regularly Exercise is good for your body and can also enhance self-confidence and happiness by lowering stress, anxiety, and psychological distress. Physical activity of

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Parents Suicide
Grief and Loss
When A Child Losing A Parent To Suicide

Home Losing A Parent To Suicide – The loss of a parent or sudden death is a painful event in one’s life. But losing a parent to suicide makes a child vulnerable to traumatic grieving and more likely to commit suicide. It leads to complex emotions such as anger, regret, guilt, and feelings of abandonment. Losing a parent to suicide has more disturbing effects that trigger the emotionally conflicted process and leave children in a state of mental illness and complicated grief. If you or someone from your family members lost a parent by suicide, I understand your powerful emotions. Therefore, I’ve discussed the crucial things in this article that will help you recover from this grieving process. Let’s start. Table of Contents Losing a parent to suicide affects the children physically and psychologically John Hopkins Children’s Center lead the study, which found that losing a parent by suicide affects children’s mental health and physical health. A sudden parental loss by suicide generates strong feelings of anger, intense frustration, guilt, shame, and horror in children that becomes a huge risk to a child’s mental health. When parents commit suicide, children are likely to struggle with prolonged grief disorder that leads to psychological trauma, major depression, and upsetting emotions. Things that may help you when losing a parent to suicide The grieving process resulting from this huge loss can take months or years. Therefore, it is necessary to process your feelings and take good care of yourself. Here are the things you need to try in this painful period to find some peace and acceptance. 1. It was not your fault Nobody is ever to blame for suicide. Repeating this message is necessary. When a parent commits suicide, children may feel guilty or fear that they contributed to the tragedy. If only I had done what Mom asked me to do, if only I had finished all of my chores, or if only I hadn’t argued with my brothers so much, they might say. Children should be informed that they did nothing wrong. They were not in any way responsible for the suicide. Assure the child that no one is to blame for the suicide. The child had no control over what happened and could not have changed anything. Make sure the child is aware of how much the deceased parent loved them. 2. You are not alone Many children develop a fear of being abandoned or left alone after losing a parent.  Grieving takes time to heal, but you’re not alone. Never think you are alone, whether you are the one going through the grieving process or who has lost a loved one. When it counts, you have the strength to get through this. There are wonderful organizations like AFSP that can aid in the healing process by supplying information that can help you understand what has happened, as well as support groups, therapists, hobbies, and activities that can help you recover. 3. Your feelings and emotional response are valid Children experience grief in various ways. Children’s responses to other types of death are frequently very different from how they feel after a suicide. If a parent commits suicide, children may feel humiliated and embarrassed. However, the most significant threat to a child’s emotional health is not allowing them the opportunity or encouragement to express these emotions and come to a reasonable understanding of what happened. Encourage the child to express their emotions. Some children find it easy to speak. Others can play and draw to express their emotions. Children’s feelings and emotions should be acknowledged and validated. For example, it’s OK to be angry, so say things like, “I see that you’re sad.” 4. Connect with friends and family members Talking with friends and family, whether about the deceased or nothing at all, can be comforting. You might ask friends and family members to talk about your parent’s favorite memories, loves, or admiration. If you’re not ready to discuss it with your parent, that’s OK. The routine and mundane may provide you comfort. You can feel more grounded or like yourself by doing something simple like going to the movies with a friend. 5. Find ways to honor your parents Try sharing, recording, or just remembering special memories of your parents. To help yourself and others remember and honor your parent, you can make a scrapbook, memory journal, blog, or memorial. You can try engaging in an activity, hobby, or interest in which your parent were very passionate. Additional ways to honor your parent include: Making their favorite meal Watching a beloved movie Trekking their favorite trail 6. Do activities that help you feel better Do activities that may help you during your grief process. Spend some time outlining a few activities you can do that you think may help you. Take a walk Make contact with an old friend Go to sleep Fill out a journal entry Clean your teeth Clean up a space Plan your day 7. Seek professional help Please think about getting help from a professional; it is highly advised. An excellent initial step could be to talk to a trusted friend or relative. A medical professional might also be able to assist. They can help you by recommending a mental health professional or offering information on local support groups and resources. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, think about bereavement counseling, support groups, or getting in touch with a mental health professional. Also Read: Best Leadership Blogs You Need To Read Take it seriously when a child talks about wanting to die According to a 2010 Johns Hopkins University study, children who lose a parent to suicide are more likely to commit suicide themselves. Take a child’s words about wanting to die seriously and seek out professional help. Never assume a child does not mean it. Bottom line It’s never easy losing a parent; sometimes, it’s even worse losing a parent through suicide. But, you’re not alone, and grieving takes time to heal. Some people care

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Recognizing Your Grief Triggers
Grief and Loss
What Does Recognizing Your Grief Triggers Means?

Home Recognizing Your Grief Triggers – If you are grieving a loss, you might be curious about what it means to recognize your grief triggers and want to know why some seem to appear out of nowhere. Grief triggers can be explained as abrupt reminders of the loss of a loved one that causes emotional responses in you. Dealing with grief triggers might occur due to unanticipatedly running into circumstances that bring up memories of a deceased loved one. Recognizing your grief triggers is the half battle. You can more thoroughly explore your emotional experience as it relates to your loss if you are aware of your grief triggers. Table of Contents Grief triggers Grief triggers are those unplanned reminders that, in a split second, might sweep you up in a sea of sadness or perhaps bring you to your knees. You lose focus on what you are doing and experience discomfort. According to the Cope Foundation, anything that brings up memories of your loss can be a grief trigger. Anything that unexpectedly sends you spiraling back into your grief is a grief trigger. Usually accompanied by sudden, powerful feelings of distress, suffering, and grief. Even if you know that these days will be really difficult for you, your reaction could not become fully apparent until you go through such a triggering experience. Things might be your grief triggers Each person’s grief process is different. Even though no two people will experience loss in precisely the same way, many people share certain aspects of grieving. A professor of psychiatry at Columbia University and director for the Center for Complicated Grief, M. Katherine Shear, says “What activates grief is the awareness of the loss. It’s something that brings to mind the loss.” The fact that various events, locations, people, thoughts, and times will quite unexpectedly trigger a mourning episode is perhaps the characteristic shared by individuals who grieve. Some of the common grief triggers are: Milestones: Invitations to weddings or commencements frequently trigger emotional grief reactions. Even when you thought you had your grieving under control, these kinds of life milestones are among the most frequent moments when you’ll feel pain over your loss. Special events: When a loved one has passed away, holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and other special days throughout the year can be extremely painful. These are ongoing reminders that will probably cause some degree of sadness for a while. Favorite song: No matter how many years have passed since your loved one’s passing, a certain song they dedicated to you may still cause you to experience some sense of pain. Sounds or smells: You can revert to grieving over your loss when you smell a certain aroma or hear youngsters playing. Some noises and smells can transport you back in time, such as your loved one’s trademark fragrance, a particular cigar brand, or distant youngsters laughing and playing. Recognizing your grief triggers is the first step to manage them Recognizing your grief triggers, what they activate within you, and how to cope in healthy ways are all necessary for identifying your grief triggers. When you don’t recognize your grief triggers, you could feel as though they come on suddenly, which might exacerbate whatever anxiety you may already be feeling linked to your sorrow. Thus, here are 7 ways you can do to help you recognizing your grief triggers and managing them: 1. Learn about grief Without having knowledge about grief, it’ll be harder for you to get through your grief. So, learning about it comes first. Reading literature about grief will teach you how to recognize when unanticipated grief strikes, what grief is, and how it affects you. You’ll move through your grief more quickly if you read more about the many forms of grief, typical responses to them, and how the grieving process works. In other words, understanding about grief helps you recognizing your own grief triggers. Soon you’ll be able to move on with your life in your new existence and recapture your joy and happiness. 2. Identify your grief triggers You might experience a range of emotions while grieving, including numbness, tremendous grief, and a semblance of self. This will all depend on the specific grief you have experienced. To better understand your current and potential triggers for experiencing grief: Check in with yourself periodically during the day, and start keeping a mood-tracking emotion journal. Be sure to record your location, the emotion, anybody activation, the intensity of the emotion on a scale, who you were with, and what you were doing in your emotion journal if you experience a more intense emotional experience throughout the day. Write down triggering individuals, circumstances, or events in your journal. Be kind to yourself and understand that it could take some time to recognize your triggers for grieving. 3. Accept your emotions Attempting to hide your emotions from yourself and others slows the grieving process. You’ll be able to comprehend when these emotions appear seemingly out of nowhere if you can accept your loss, your sentiments, and your emotions. All of it is a symptom of the grief response to loss. It will eventually come naturally to you to experience, accept, and let go of these waves of grief. Like the ebb and flow of ocean waves, you prepare yourself for the next one when it comes as expected. 4. Process the grief triggers It can seem contradictory to fully allow yourself to experience your emotional experience while grieving. Some people may feel the need to dull their feelings and disconnect from the reality of what happened since grieving can be unbearably painful. Be aware that this drive is completely normal and prevents you from feeling pain. However, doing so can make your pain last longer because your brain needs time to process traumatic events before consolidating and storing memories adequately. You may frequently feel triggered or exhibit signs of one or more mental health issues if the brain is unable to absorb and experience adequately. The following

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Fear Of Parents Dying
Grief and Loss
Ever Felt The Fear Of Parents Dying? Here Are 10 Ways To Cope With It

Home The Fear of Parents Dying – Everyone must come to embrace the fact that death is an inescapable element of life. Death can be terrible anytime, and the dread of losing a parent is typical. People are afraid of losing a parent for a variety of reasons. Each person has varied reasons for this concern that are specific to them and their relationship. Concern about the death of loved ones is a commonplace and universal emotion. You may be able to conquer your fear if you have a clear grasp of why you feel that way. This article will tell you how to overcome a parent’s fear of dying. Table of Contents People with a healthy relationship with their parents People in deep, loving relationships with their parents experience distinct levels of fear if a parent passes away. Defining the specifics of your concerns can help you have a viewpoint when trying to get over them. 1. Physical suffering You may be apprehensive about how your parent would feel physically when they pass away because you have never met mortality. A study in 2007, found that the death of parents has a significant impact on adults’ psychological and physical well-being. Also, the impact of the parental death known to varies by gender. 2. Absence of unwritten history Your parents are well-versed in the background of your complete family and everything about you and your life. If none of this knowledge has been recorded in writing, you will lose it with your parents. 3. Broken ties One of the most vital relationships you will ever have is between parents and children. This link is gone and cannot be recreated when a parent passes away. 4. The harm suffered by your kids People mourn the opportunity their children will miss spending with a grandparent when they consider the death of a parent. 5. A sobering reminder of your mortality Your parents’ ageing and impending deaths may make you consider your own mortality. People with an unresolved conflict with their parents Some individuals have ongoing issues with their parents from an early age. It might be challenging to deal with the loss of a parent with who you don’t always get along. In comparison to someone with a good bond with the parents, an individual in this scenario might fear the loss of a parent for different purposes. 1. Unresolved issues  If you haven’t or can’t get rid of old problems before a parent passes away, you might have to deal with them forever. 2. Grief for an impossible  After a parent passes away, it is hard to wish for better moments spent with them. You might discover that you frequently contemplate impossibilities. 3. Taking decisive action You can feel unprepared to make decisions considering your parents’ burial and estate planning preferences. 4. Loss of family  A tight connection with your parent may result in problems with other family members. After your parent passes away, you might no more be connected to your other relatives. 5. Intensified self-awareness When a parent passes away, it may prompt you to reflect on your values and identity. You can achieve calm by understanding what causes your fear. It would be fantastic if you could attempt to resolve the issue. Or else, you can try to endure the situation. Ways to cope with the fear of parents dying 1. Don’t be so hard on yourself; fear of death is normal Knowing that fear of parents dying is expected is one of the main stages of overcoming it. Even for a short period, these rushing thoughts can temporarily eclipse their logical reasoning. If you feel this fear when considering life and death, try not to be too tough on yourself. Because you are programmed for surviving, you naturally think about your chances of surviving and have moderate anxiety about passing away. 2. Shift your focus to the beautiful memories instead of being stuck in the what-ifs When you give something more attention, you quickly become aware of all the shortcomings and potential problems. Too much attention on death excludes the potential for life. Concentrate on all the beautiful years your parents have experienced rather than worrying about when they may pass away. 3. You can’t control death, so live in the moment Learn to live more at the moment and to be able to let go of things that not in your control, such as death. Enjoy your time with your family when you can, pay them frequent visits, and strive to make them smile in manners that only you, as a kid, could. Since your parents are still around with you, give them the most excellent care possible. 4. Cherish each other’s company while you can, and spend quality time with your parents Keep a good attitude by enjoying life with your parents. While helping with errands and doctor visits is crucial, spending time together is just as significant. Make fun a goal by organizing regular mother-daughter outings or regular fun family nights. Walking back to childhood might also assist you in keeping your attention on the good. Don’t avoid conversations regarding the death Acceptance is the secret to overcoming the fact that your parents will eventually pass away. Even though it might be tough to comprehend, you and everyone you love will eventually pass away, including your parents. 5. Help your parents to take care of their health Invest some time in maintaining your parents’ wellness. Assuring your parents eat well and exercise regularly to maintain ageing physical and mental abilities are two aspects of taking care of their health. Along with this, you should also spend time on spiritual wellness. Talk frankly about life and death during this time. Discuss the positive and negative aspects of life, how they overcome obstacles, and any advice they may have for you. Have a direct discussion with them to let them know how you feel if you’re worried about losing them. They might also share your concerns about being

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Vivien Roggero | Elite Transformation Coach | Stuck In Denial
Grief and Loss
Feeling Stuck In Denial? Do These 4 Things To Overcome It

Home Stuck in Denial – If your loved one has recently passed away, you could find it challenging to understand and accept the grief. You could occasionally lose track of the person’s absence or the fact that they are no longer present in your life. Denial has these traits and is a typical phase of the grief process. Not only during the death of a loved one but also after losing other significant things, such as a career, a business, a friendship, or a relationship, you could feel the same sadness and might also be stuck in denial. This article analyzes the feeling of being stuck in denial as one of the five phases of grieving, examines its traits, and bids some potential coping mechanisms. Table of Contents Understanding denial Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a psychologist, was the first to present the idea of the phases of grieving. In her 1969 book “On Death and Dying,” Dr Kübler-Ross put forth the idea that there are five phases of grief that humans go through: Denial Anger Anger Depression Acceptance When you lose someone, especially if it happens suddenly, you could feel like everything is thrown up. Your everyday routine or even your personality may be impacted by the loss. For example, losing a relationship may change your daily schedule, your house, and even how you perceive yourself as a spouse or partner. Denial is a defensive reflex that lessens the hurt from the loss. Your brain is trying to shield you from the agony, giving you time to get used to your current situation. Denial usually occurs as your brain attempts to accept a loss right away. As you process the loss, you might also feel other emotions, including sorrow, rage, guilt, or anxiety. Reasons people experience denial When recognizing and communicating emotions, some individuals find it harder than others, mainly when the thoughts and feelings are distressing. Nevertheless, when emotions are repressed, people lose sight of the real motivations behind their attitudes, acts, and behaviours, and  Denial results in a response. To prevent the suffering that results from these bad feelings, a person may assert that they don’t experience them. Restricting emotions is not a positive approach to coping with any kind of trauma, both physical and emotional, losing a loved mate or fear of the future. Suppressing feelings can result in a condition of denial, which can later lead to more significant problems. Denial can be sparked by worry, anxiety, and uncertainty. Signs you are stuck in denial If a person is stuck in denial, they may avoid or dismiss their actions, resist accepting support or minimize the outcomes. For instance, someone who frequently skips work because of drug usage but believes their manager doesn’t observe or that they aren’t harming themselves. Denial can be classified. It may involve untrusting behaviours, such as shifting the subject, or a lack of self-awareness, such as failing to recognize how stuff has damaged you. For instance, even though you know they have recently experienced a traumatic occurrence, a loved one getting stuck in denial can claim to be trouble-free. Physical signs of someone struggling to acknowledge an incident or its consequences may also exist. For instance, a parent might continue to decorate her son’s room precisely as it was years after he passed away. It’s all right to be in denial for a short time Denial shouldn’t be excessively relied upon as a way of coping in daily life because it might be damaging in the long run. However, denial can be a helpful coping strategy to start the recovery process in the short term. A perfectly legitimate and typical human reaction to pain is denial. There is no reason to be guilty of it. Being stuck in denial, though, isn’t a sustainable approach to handling issues. The first step toward solving problems is simply admitting they exist. Before getting to this crucial stage, one must go through denial. Ways to overcome it It’s not easy to go through denial and get back up again after you lose someone you cherished. But, being stuck in denial will never bring you anywhere. So here are 4 things you can do to help yourself slowly feeling alive again. 1. Give your grief time The best method to get over grief is with time. Everyone experiences recovery at their own pace, and some people find it easier to deal with than others. Healing frequently happens gradually over time rather than entirely at once. 2. Begin to consider the future It can occasionally be challenging to envision what your life would be like after a tragedy. But as soon as you feel prepared, you can discover that you can resume thinking about the future. You might begin by making doable baby steps or objectives. 3. Keep a journal Although some people find a diary beneficial, you should be cautious not to utilize it in a manner that traps you in the past. 4. Seek professional help If you find it challenging to deal with grief, get a professional’s help. Grief is acceptable as long as it doesn’t lead to prolonged depression or behaviour that is harmful to your health. You can accept and embrace your loss with the assistance of grief counselling. Also Read: How to Earn Respect at Work? The takeaway? The grief of losing somebody you love cannot be forgotten. You will endure suffering for all of your life. But being stuck in denial isn’t an answer to your grief. As time passes, the agony of your grief will lessen, and you’ll gradually feel like you can live again. Taking steps to accept your loss will be necessary for you to manage your grief effectively. You’ll one day awaken to find that your mood has improved and you are no more submerged in grief. Manage Your Grief Starting Today With A FREE Discovery Call FREE DISCOVERY CALL

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